We have been dateing for 3 months, and i love him so much. But we always fight, the other day i was at his house and i told him how me and my friend had a party the other nite when my parents weren't home at my house. he got really mad telling me if i wanted to get grounded then i could go do that. He told me that i would be the one regretting it not him. He would keep going out and haveing fun with his friends, he even made it seem like he wouldn't care if he couldn't see me if i was grounded. He mad me feel horrible, stuff like this always happens. We get in a fight and i go home and just cry. I love him so much though, i would never be able to break up with him. But unlike the begining of our realtionship were we actually comunicated all the time, now we only cuddle, watch tv, go to parties, have sex, barely talk about important or personal things anymore, and of course fight. I just can't take it anymore, but breaking up with him isn't an option i just love him to much
2007-01-03 10:28:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like your boyfriend was probably taken by surprise to find out that you had a party. So he could have been hurt by the fact he wasn't invited, or, more likely, his insecurities were making him act jealous and controlling. It probably had very little to do with you getting grounded. He's telling you that since you partied without him...he's gonna party without you. Sounds a bit vengeful if you ask me. I don't know how long you've known him, but 3 months is not a very long time. It takes years to really know someone. Trust me! Trust me on this too...you have no idea how strong you can be. I know you think he's everything to you, and you can't bear the pain of being without him. But you can!!! But... since you don't want to breakup with him...I can share some things I've learned about men. Don't let them control you with their anger. No one deserves to be bullied, but if you let them, they will. Remember...Men love a chase and they love a challenge. To avoid fighting maybe try not to surprise your guy with possibly upsetting news. But I have a feeling that you guys fight about lots of things that seem stupid to you, and that can take a toll on you. Since you are having trouble communicating, maybe writing him a letter telling him how you're feeling would help open that door again. Just be sure you don't blame him or say things like "you always"!!!! That won't get you anywhere. Find and hold your inner strength, and you'll be fine no matter what.
2007-01-03 11:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by nancy karma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation. I was with my ex for four years in the beginning it was fun and exciting. After a while he started to do the same thing. Telling me that the things that I did would ruin my life and he would just keep on with his. I started doing everything that he wanted, when he wanted. I realized one day that all he was trying to do was control everything that I did. He was abusive mentally not fiscally. It was the hardest thing I ever had to do. But with the support of family and friends I stepped out side the relationship and really looked at was going on that was when I realized that I was being controlled. I took a deep breath one day and walked away. It was the best thing I ever did. Now I have the perfect relationship that I deserve. Take my advice if he wont talk or consider working things out you need to move on. You really will feel better.
2007-01-03 10:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by purplemama83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its Like Me and My Ex Without The Sex. Anyways I miss Her and im Sure He Will Miss You. You can Show to Him How much it hurts you and Try to Work Things out or After Awhile You Will get Tired Of His Crap and Notice that Being The puppy that always comes back will not Help You Find Love in life and you Either break it or let it break You. Good Luck.
2007-01-03 10:35:01 · answer #3 · answered by ATMAFIA09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I know how hard this must be. You have bonded with this person in the most intimate way possible. However, you have only been together for 3 months. Things must have moved a little too fast- don't you think? You're probably very young and a wonderful, beautiful person inside and out. You don't deserve to be treated like crap. Let him go before things get really ugly and you completely lose all self-respect.
2007-01-03 10:33:57 · answer #4 · answered by melissamarie728 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If breaking up is not an option, then there is no need for your question. You're young and you realtionship is on the outs...sometimes you have to walk away. Arguing and fighting isn't healthy. In any relationship. You have to step back and ask yourself is this how you really wanna live your life. fussing and fighting? If not you need to either sit him down and discuss your issues or simply move along!
2007-01-03 10:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by OPTIMUS DIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only reason he is there is for the sex and he knows as long as he can get it he will go back. But he's just a control freak who wants everything his way and seems like you enjoy been abused like that. I woudl call it quits and move ona nd find someone who likes you more and respects your feelings. SO the more he can get away with it the more he will do till he gets tired of you and he will move on. But it's your decision. and if you ever want to chat with someone who will always be a friend and respect you Im me anytime.
2007-01-03 10:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to know how he really feels about you, all you have to do is stop having sex with him for a few months or so if he sticks around then just maybe your relationship is salvageable, if he leaves you then he never really loved you, sorry but it sounds to me like your in a bad relationship, your 100 percent love needs to be combined with 100 percent of his love or it just simply will not work, period.
2007-01-03 10:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by bootjack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO breaking up with him is an option TRUST me you dont need people like that in your life, HES YOUR ******* BOYFRIEND hes supposed to make you feel the best that you can and apperently hes just being a retard who needs to man up and treat his woman right, dont let him tell you what to do if you wanna drink do it then. you can find another guy who is understanding and doesnt try to hurt your feelings, cuz if he keeps doing this then hes intentionally doing it,and trust me you dont need that. well actually insted of dumping him tell him exactly whati just told you just be like "yo lets talk, man up your making me feel horrile and i cant keep doing this either you stop or im out" 1. thatll get his attention and 2.if he stays or changes his act then he really wants to be with you
2007-01-03 10:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by CRUNK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound too young to be having sex. I think you should learn some maturity before you even attempt to be in a relationship. And learn how to spell depressed a mind is a terrible thing too waste, and your waisting it on a guy who only likes you because of your goodies. Milly
2007-01-03 10:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by milly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to Make REAL Friends :
- We All Need Friends
- Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Good Friends vs Bad Friends
http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_01.htm
2007-01-03 10:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋