As we become a nation of Bridget Jones type characters and divorce rates are higher than ever, I wonder, is it because women are just too choosy and have far too much self respect to settle for anything less than perfection? All the married women I know are unhappy drudges who settle for any old shite just to keep their homes and their families together. Surely there has to be some happily married people in the world??
By the way, before you start having a go at me personally I fall into neither catagory!
2007-01-03 10:20:21 · 28 answers · asked by ♥Tallulah♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, I guess the women got sick & tired of being the doormats so now it's the guys turn...it just had to happen one day...
2007-01-03 11:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by Funky 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well some men find strong independant women attractive, i am divorced and worked long and hard to get where i am today, and i raised 3 kids on my own, i have a partner now who respects me no end, he said that any woman who can run her own business AND, raise kids alone and run a house (and stay sane) are the salt of the earth, i took that as a huge compliment, so yes i think that it's possible for a woman of that category to have a lasting relationship...i am living proof, 10 years and counting...i have never been choosy, because all i want is the best for my family, they come first in my books
2007-01-03 22:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The idea of strength and independence for woman is long overdue. Drudgery marriages are the direct result of historical control and discrimination.
Too choosy?....over the person you are going to marry and have children?...Can you be too choosy????
It may come as a surprise to some women but there are loads of men who do not want to be dominant in their relationships...do not want a wife who is little more than a cook/cleaner...and do not want to talk to a woman they love who has no life of her own, no sense of achievement.
The reason you don't know about all the happy couples is that they are too busy being happy to get noticed.
Happiness...in case you haven't noticed...does not make the news.
2007-01-03 18:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes they do, only if they are with a Strong independent man and do not want a family. Women spend alot of time, searching for the mr. right, the "one" who is going to father the best children, be the best husband and life partner.She puts alot of effort into this task. Unfortunately thats the downfall when you start a family, because the women just wants to keep her little family together in one nest, thats when the Strong independent man can become bored. Thats why your friends put up with the shite!
2007-01-03 18:40:18 · answer #4 · answered by ambertottie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I would rather be on my own then end up marrying someone I wasn't happy with. Society generally puts alot of pressure on women to marry by a certain age (even if it is getting older), but what's wrong with being too choosey?? I would certainly rather be with someone I was completely 100% about rather than not. I know a few marriages, where the women are very happy and I hope that one day I will experience that aswell.
2007-01-03 18:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by Danru 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My wife is an executive directer and she attained the title after we were married, but with kids something had to give. It was my career. Luckily, I reasserted myself into school and I am doing well. But my external family doesn't understand and I feel disowned , as if I were less a man to them. Of course, at the end of the day I look at what they have done with their lives and consider the source. There is no perfect relationship and people should delve into the issue before they start a relationship. We all need to grow up. Starting with our own actions and expectations.
2007-01-03 18:29:58 · answer #6 · answered by boozer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are give and take. Strong minded is often narrow minded and 'independent' indicates they don't really feel they need a partner. See where I'm going with this?
So I'd say...it is difficult - but not impossible.
My sister is strong and independent and she has been in a lasting relationship for a long while. He is a complete doormat but that is beside the point.
2007-01-03 18:27:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very independent, strong (emotionally), and intelligent. For me I find that a lot of men are intimidated by my success ( I have a decent income), at least that's what I've been told. I'm cute and certainly not overweight ( I live a somewhat healthy lifestyle). But for me its a lot of men cheating on me and then using the excuse " your expectations were just too high for me". I have yet to completely figure out the meaning of that phrase, as I asked for very little from the men I've dated, loyalty, trust, love if it's there. I'm not the girl who wants the damn moon, a huge diamond ( I buy my own things), or financial security ( I've given that to myself), I do just want to be loved, but then when you think about it some men act like its a lot to ask for.
2007-01-03 19:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Lexy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am stay at home mom and I have no income of my own as I saty home with the kids...and let me tell you, if I was working I would have been gone long ago.
I am only here for the kids and the fact that my guy is a controlling **** sucker, so I cant leave right yet.
So I would think that a women who has her own money doesnt NEED a man for financial securtity and therefore CAN indeed leave, and if he is a being a **** then why would she stay with him. Women dont leave men that are nice to them, whether they are rich women or poor.
Its up to the man I think to make his women NEVER want a divorce and if he is a great guy then he has ntohing to worry about.
2007-01-03 18:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Lasting relationships ended in my parents generation the baby boomers.They knew how to communicate and comprise and love each other no matter what
Now divorce is the quick option and everyone wants out!
As women become stronger men are reverting into you can do it all so do it......
I am proud to be a strong woman and will raise my 2 daughters as such..................
2007-01-03 20:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by Tasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Strong and independent women are OK, men too-give them their due's there-but i can't be done with the domination bit that sometimes comes with it off some women. I am an easy going, laid back type of guy and would wish one day to find myself a like minded female--but i will not be dominated--been there and come out of it...not going there again! "Domination" can attach itself to "strong and independent" so very easily...in both sexes...and its ok for some people to like that type of thing, but there are many who don't. "Equality" is what its all about for me, not doormats or carpets.
2007-01-04 07:48:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋