Have you ever thought you just didnt know if you were "in love" with your spouse anymore...maybe because you had to work out of town for a very long period of time. Then end up having an affair with someone who pursued you for weeks. Then after you go home realze just how much you DO love them? How do you get rid of the guilt even after you and your spouse have worked it out and they have forgiven you. I know I deserve it, but I am overwhelmed everytime I look at my spouse! How could I hurt someone I love sooooo much?
2007-01-03 10:20:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
because you are a human being. all humans are capable of making mistakes. it seems though that your mistake has been a blessing in disguise. god has a way of making that happen. cool for us huh? just don't make another by not being totally there in the present now. if you are too busy hating and beating yourself up you will not be able to give much too an already hurting relationship. you have been forgiven. now make this the best marriage you can. when you are away from home, take your god with you, when you are lonely remember you are not alone, just away from home.
2007-01-03 10:38:15 · answer #1 · answered by annilori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guilt stays there for a long time. I had an affair on my ex-husband, even thought it turned out that I didn't love him and that he was not good for me, I still had the guilt. Try to go through some mental excercises with your wife and talk to her and work on not hurting her again. That is what is going to help. Set personal goals of not hurting her for the next week. Once that is done keep going, affairs are not good they are addictive one sometimes leads to quite a few more than one. Just work on never doing anything to hurt her again, and everything should work out just fine.
2007-01-03 18:27:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I have never nor though about it, but I will tell you this. I two was pursued by another woman. But I never gave in to it, the love & respect I had for my wife was to great to give in to temptation. Learn from this and become and make your marriage better.
2007-01-03 18:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably see a counselor....sounds like you haven't moved on.
And NO--I have never done that---it was done to me and ended a 24 year marriage. You don't know how lucky you are to be forgiven, because I NEVER EVER will forgive my ex.
2007-01-03 18:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cuz you are a jerk!
You will forever hold the guilt as you should.
2007-01-03 18:37:47 · answer #5 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound sincere in your feelings. I hope that you remember those feelings if you ever get the urge to do that again.
2007-01-03 18:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time think twice about what you are doing then you wont have no guilt.
2007-01-03 18:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by dimples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋