just wondering cuz my soon to be ex-wife sure believes so. Should i cut her some slack and move on, or be very angry and move on.
2007-01-03 10:10:55 · 22 answers · asked by Kaboom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only person you are hurting if you harbor resentment towards your wife is yourself. She's moved on and if she has done irreperable damage to the relationship by having a relationship with another man, than just let the anger go, let her go and if you don't have any children try not to give her a second thought. ( I Know, easier said than done, right?)
Oh by the way, there is never a worthy excuse to have an affair. That usually is a lame excuse for some other thing going through her mind or heart. That is just an excuse for her to be a childish selfish little girl who was unprepared for the rocky times of married life and acted out like a immature child.
2007-01-03 10:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by J-Dub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a reason to WANT to have an affair, but it doesn't make it right. If you fall out of love with someone, it is only fair that you let them know the truth, and break up with them before you move on to the next person. That is the least your wife should be doing for you. Either way, though, you will not do yourself any favors by being angry - if she has had an affair then she does not deserve the satisfaction of making you angry.
2007-01-03 10:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by Heather P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what...let her do what she wants. I mean why do want to be with someone who doesnt want you anyways? And getting pissed off at her wont solve anything but just make you angry and bitter, why let her have control over you like that for?
So yeah cut her some slack and move on, who knows this could be a blessing in disguise...maybe there is someone better out there for you...and dont just sit there and say "whatever" either. Im serious.
Let your ex-wife enjoy her new lover, they were made for each other.
You can do better and probably will, even if you arent that hot maybe your personality will win over some other girl, right?
If not, then focus on yourself, save and buy yourself that nice car or truck you always wanted.
Tell your ex-wife "have a nice life" and ten lie and tell her you have a date! Even if you dont.
2007-01-03 10:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going to be honest with you. There is not a real reason that is going to be good for having an affair. I had an affair on my x-hubby when we hadn't even seperated yet. I was not in love with the man anymore, and I ended up sleeping with one of our mutual friends, I did feel bad about it and I know that there is no excuse for it, however, being angry about it after I told my husband was what had upset me the most. All she probably wants is to find that person who does make her feel right, I agree that she is going about it all the wrong ways, but being angry is only going to encourage her to do it more because in her mind it shows what an *** hole you were to her, even though it doesn't seem like you are the *** hole, I think that she is.
2007-01-03 10:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah E 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's no acceptable reason for having an affair. If you are not in love with the spouse any longer and do not want to be in their life then get a divorce and go on with your life, but DON'T cheat under any circumstance. It's WRONG and will cause more pain than necessary. Just be honest with your spouse and things should be a lot less complicated.
2007-01-03 10:34:03 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My wife of 8 years had an affair. We are in the process of going through a divorce right now. It's really hard to go through. I wish you the best of luck. Just keep your head up high, and try to have some fun with your friends. All I try to do is stay busy. It's hard to keep it off your mind. I still think about her everyday, and I just feel like my life has ended. Just try not to show her your feelings.
2007-01-03 11:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by beachdog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not an excuse for having an affair. She knew what she was doing, and prob though u would buy that excuse. Its her loss. Move on and find someone worthy of ur love. Good luck!
2007-01-03 10:22:57 · answer #7 · answered by steffo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's NO excuse for having an affair. Just move on and don't look back.
2007-01-03 10:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
People that have affairs will always have an excuse to justify their actions. Move on without anger, feel sorry for her.
2007-01-03 10:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tell my husband if hes going to screw around the least he can do is tell me so I can divorce him. That is no excuse to have an affair. I would never screw around on my husband of course unless he screwed around on me. Then I will have to P A R T Y!
2007-01-03 10:18:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋