His demeanor has changed. He has been moody, and snaps at me when I am trying to help. I haven't done anything to deserve this type of treatment and I feel hurt and like I have been getting treated unfairly.
For example, on New years day.... we brought in the New Year with him calling me a dumb bi*ch. The only thing I was doing was going to pick up my daughter... I had let her go roller skating with friends. I don't know what has been eating at him, maybe he wants out of the relationship, which would be fine, all he has to do is say so. I used to think we could go to each other with anything that is bothering the other, I thought he was my best friend... now I'm not so sure.
I really don't know what to do about the situation, because he won't talk to me. I have always made myself available to him if he is being troubled by something, and I have never judged or been critical of him. I have always been encouraging and supportive in his decisions and new ideas. Help.
2007-01-03 10:09:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Give him some breathing room. Whatever is eating at him will come out eventually. I know that if something is bothering my husband...and he gets snappy...I disappear for a while....and after he cools off...then he'll tell me what was bothering him. Don't read too much into things right now...give it a little time.
2007-01-03 10:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Miloree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy that is suppose to love you should not call you a dumb bi*ch. I think this is a HUGE red flag. I personally would leave. I think if you don't you will be very unhappy in ten years. Plus do you really want to bring other children into a relationship like this?
2007-01-03 18:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by luv3dbb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, this happened to me a lot. my husband became really moody a couple of days because he just got a very laborious job and he would yell at the kids and me, especially when I tried to talk about our financial situation. I knew that he was having a tough time working and so I first of all told him that he shouldn't care about the money because we have enough to send the kids off to college and they are very bright and they'll help us. Just give a little mediation but first just ask him what's wrong. Oh, yeah, give a message while you're doing the mediation.
2007-01-03 18:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by M M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always been encouraging and supportive in his decisions and new ideas. Help.
that line is KEY for me, thats most of what I want from a relationship that I don't get currently
if somebody calls you a dumb ***** , be that for a few days and let him compensate maybe.
if somebody is supportive and encouraging, do your best
2007-01-03 18:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when my ex began to verbally abuse, and name call, i had no idea he had been seeing that woman for over a year. he began to treat me disrespectfully and fault find, and treat me as if i didn't matter. when i finally asked him why? he stated he wanted a divorce and blamed it all on me, crushing what was left of my self esteem. so whenever there are changes in a man and they use to be good to us, i always think based on behavior that they may have someone else, and the anger is caused because they just don't want to be with us anymore,
2007-01-03 18:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will have to tell you. My husband starting acting this way when I was pregnant with my first daughter. I knew something wasn't right. He had an attitude, he kept to himself. So I set him up. I thought he was screwing around and I starting emailing him on the computer and he was talking nasty to me but he thought I was someone else. For a week he emailed me. I was 8 months pregnant and I told him I was going to raise the baby on my own. He still wouldnt admit he was trying to screw around. I told him everything he typed to me. He was in shock. Dummy.
2007-01-03 18:13:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get away from him unless you want your child to be treated like this when she gets into a relationship. Most people live what they grow up in. Is he on drugs? Are you capable of going out on your own just get you and your child away from that type of behavior and ask yourself why are you willing to put up with this type of abuse?
2007-01-03 18:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by queenie one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, sometimes it is hard to figure out. In my opinion, you need to confront him, not with accusation, but tell him you feel like he is shutting you out and that he seems to be resentful. Maybe try to get away for a weekend. If he will not open up, you might consider saying 'hey, things have changed with us, maybe we should cool things awhile. Let him figure himself out.
2007-01-03 18:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by ggirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't put up with that. I would leave him, especially if I had a daughter. I wouldn't want her to grow up thinking that its ok for women to put up with being called a dumb b*tch.
2007-01-03 18:12:07 · answer #9 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, ask him what is bothering him. It may not be you, but there sounds like there is deffinantly something wrong. Just ask him and hopefully it will get you where you need to go.
2007-01-03 18:13:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋