I'm the mother of a 3yrld boy and a 1yrld girl
Happily married to a marine (Currently Stationed in Darfur Africa) Were having some financial
issues due to medical bills. and my husband fells like i should stay home till the kids are in school. But im felling guiltily over him working so hard to provide while im spending it left and right on living expenses.What do you think i should do?
2007-01-03 09:55:59 · 23 answers · asked by Lizzyg 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are some good ideas!! Now any ideas on a dealing with a Marine's pride??
2007-01-03 11:08:13 · update #1
This is something that you and your husband need to agree on. the first thing I'd do is cut back on spending exspecially on non essentials. Then you need to weigh the pros and cons like how much money can you actually bring in or get ahead with you working becouse childcare will cost you, travel(gas etc) and lunches etc. Maybe you could consider other options like doing some at home work like selling Avon or babysitting or work part time when someone in your family could help care for the kids. Remember that a marriage takes two and compromises so look at pros and cons and all alternatives and you'll come up with something that will work for everyone. Take care and god bless you and your husband for his sacrifices
2007-01-03 10:03:12 · answer #1 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is OK with you staying home then fine. Now if you want to earn some extra cash then do something from the home. BTW I was a stay at home Mom until my kids (3 boys) were all in school full time. I then worked part-time while they were in school only. These years are so important and if you can stay at home then do so. I realize some can't and it is hard to make ends meet. I was lucky enough to be able to stay at home when the boys were young. I wouldn't have it any other way.
2007-01-03 10:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. You have to way the costs and benefits. Who would take care of your kids while you worked? Day care? That's expensive. Would you earn enough to offset the cost? Maybe your husband feels like the kids need mom at home more than you need the extra income right now. Talk to him about that.
Is there a way you could cut back on spending? Is there a way you could work at home- maybe sell Avon or Mary K or something?
2007-01-03 10:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by peggy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it is not a bad thing that you want to go to work to help support the family. For years I was a stay at home mother of two children. My husband and I struggled to make ends meet while I stayed home and took care of the kids. I finally decided that enough was enough and I went back to work. My husband didn't agree with me going back to work but he eventually realized why I was doing it. He realized that for one I was tired of being home with the kids all day long and for two that I wanted to help support the family. There are programs out there that can help you either pay for day care or for some one (a family member or a friend) to come in and watch your children while you are at work. Maybe try explaining to your husband that you want to help with the expenses and that this is the only way that you can think of to help. He may get mad but he will eventually get over it.
2007-01-03 10:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ann D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wonderful staying home with your children if you can swing it. Try applying for work at a day care center or a church owned preschool. You can usually keep your children with you.
****Marine's Pride***** Tell him that you are doing what is best for the children AND the family. Not only will you have the benefits of an income, but they will have a chance to interact with other children and still be near to their Mom. It really is the best of both worlds. He'll have trouble saying no. ;-D
2007-01-03 09:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you must stay home you need to find something to do in the home to make money. auctioning or running a day care is a good amount of money and it gives your kids paymates too. Depending on the stte youlive in and the size of house yuhave yu can have up to 12 children...............w/help of course, but at a $100-150 per head, thats a lot of cash while staying home and something to think about.
2007-01-03 10:14:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite, money replaced right into a concern for us. I wasn't engaged on the time I have been given pregnant and once I grew to become pregnant, looking a job replaced into increasingly greater puzzling as there truly weren't any jobs in the 1st place and those that have been available actual weren't going to somebody with a abdomen and who might desire to pass on 3 months of pass away in the close to destiny. So we've been very under pressure with regard to the money concern. all of it worked out... i'm nevertheless a SAHM and my son is 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous. i'm grateful previous concept that i'm getting to spend each and every 2nd with my son... money is amazingly tight, yet we are making it artwork. My husband and that i are the two nevertheless in college so we are merely pushing with the aid of till we can end. And no, i don't sense like human beings will decide me.. i don't pass around asserting my financial concern to others so how might they comprehend if we've been suffering in the 1st place? in accordance to all of us else in the international my husband and that i are doing damn nicely on one earnings.... they don't comprehend that we actually stay via a spreadsheet and dont' spend a single cent without accounting for it.
2016-10-19 10:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any sort of job you can bring into the home? Like babysitting others kids, that makes real good money! OR find a legit online job.
Visit sights that give you good ideas on how to make an income from home.
Good Luck
2007-01-03 10:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can find an affordable day care, I think you should work. Daycare might be good for your kids. It gives them the chance to interact with other kids. If you can't find an affordable day care, stay home. There's no sense in working and having most of your paycheck go to daycare.
2007-01-03 09:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS SOMETHING YOU TWO NEED TO TAKE TIME TO DECIDE ON BUT FOR ME I KNOW WHAT YOU WILL MISS IF YOU GO TO WORK AND LEAVE THE KIDS I RAISED 3 SONS AND I WOULD HATE TO KNOW THAT I WOULD HAVE MISSED SOME OF THE THINGS THEY DO AT A YOUNG AGE YOU CANT GET THOSE MEMEORIES BACK I WOULD STAY HOME BY BEING HOME YOU ARE GIVING YOUR KIDS A STRONG SENSE OF SERCURITY !@ HOME AND THAT BOND WANT BE BROKE MY KIDS ARE IN THEIR 20S AND 2 ARE MARRIED BUT THEY ALWAYS COME TALK TO MOM WHEN THEY GOT SOMETHING ON THIER MINE SOME TIME JUST TO ASK ME TO PRAY ABOUT IT
2007-01-03 12:10:56 · answer #10 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋