I do this almost everyday. I can't help it.I was with my ex for 10yrs. and we have one child together. We only been apart for 5months. My new boyfriend says that the reason I keep doing that is because in back of my mind I am thinking of him.And sometimes I do, but not in a way I want to get back with him,because I don't.My ex was a very evil man, and my boyfriend now is a wonderful person and I love him. I don' t know why I call him buy my ex's name. And my boyfriend gets really mad. This morning he told me I had one more time to call him out of his name.Somtimes I think I moved to fast with a other relationship.But a good guy is hard to come buy and I did'nt want to lose him. My ex is really a bad guy. I don't understand why I do that. Can you please tell me something. Thank you.
2007-01-03 09:49:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
10 years is a long time to spend with someone. I spent only 2 years with someone, broke up and a month later I was with another girl calling her my X's name for about 3 months, I really had to catch myself and it took a lot of effort to break myself of that habbit. Luckily for me I never called out my x's name in bed, I think that would have been a little tougher to get away with. U just need to explain to him as another person posted that it is more just habbit and not emotional. Reconfirm with him that he is a great guy blah blah and that your X was Mr. wrong and keep telling him that. One more thought, anyone who fills the role of boyfriend in your life whether it be your current boyfriend or some other guy, your mind still has your X's name assigned to that role in your life, not to the person.
2007-01-03 10:09:29 · answer #1 · answered by J-Dub 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in anger you may call some one special by the name of the last person associating with the past arguments. This happens to ex wives and ex husbands too. soo 1. Call ur beau Honey 2. Call people that you have hard time remember names with as hey gurl or hey guy. 3. Do not always call everyone by their names give them a nickname. 4. Keep Bio notes of friends at home or in you purse. 5. It is better to call the ex Ron then Arron your beau. soo think Ron and always imagine him.
2016-03-29 06:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you did move a little fast point is when you are used to saying something for 10yrs ,.its a habit that s hard to break Im sure,but I know it must hurt him,but make it a conscious thing to say HIS name and you'll get into the habit of that for the next 10yrs(hopefully)
2007-01-03 09:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by youngprincez23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprise your head hasn't been busted to the white meat.
You need to give him a nickname, and hopefully you won't have the slip of the tongue.
Your ex should be called -ig'nant (something crazy so you won't make another mistake).
Good luck hon.
2007-01-03 09:56:18 · answer #4 · answered by Khandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has called me his exs name a few times and oh i was pissed. But i got over it. But i just think that its something that just happens when your with someone for so long. Hopefully your boyfriend can understand that. Good luck.
2007-01-03 12:35:43 · answer #5 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are with your ex for 10 years and even had a child, he couldn't be that bad.
Why don't you start calling your new guy neutral names like Dear, Darling, Sweetheart? It makes him feels good and who cares if you don't even meant him.
2007-01-03 18:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do the same thing sometimes and then I feel so guilty. Like you said it's the time spent with the other guy and not because of feelings. Tell your guy just what you told us. I think he will appreciate it and maybe understand a bit more.
2007-01-03 09:53:43 · answer #7 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My ex used to holler out my name when hosing guys she met after we divorced. Some of our mutual friends told me that and I thought it was a riot!
You go through it too? lol
The real question of the day is, after re-marrying does she still call out my name 8 years later to her husband?? ha ha
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I'm guessing you're hanging around people similar to him and as a result you're keeping thoughts about him alive in your day to day life.
2007-01-03 10:00:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current boyfriend sounds like a pusssy! I would have been out the first time you did that. I hope you don't call out your ex's name during sex!
2007-01-03 09:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal after getting gout of a relationship that long. Talk to your new bf and if he don't understand then that's his problem and he's not mature enough for a real woman!
2007-01-03 09:55:17 · answer #10 · answered by dmstanley02 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋