Thoughts about negitivity/self esteem/self worth etc.......?

Question

Negitivity

Why is it that I always go into the negitive? Why is it that I blame myself for things which are beyond my control? Why is it that I love people who are not worthy of my love? My heart seems so open so caring and yet the people I allow in are the wrong ones. The reason that this negitivity is in my life is because I allow this negitivity to control me. The world around me tends to mold me, so if I surround myself with negitivity I become negitive. I am a flower in the woods, a beautiful flower, and in order for me to stay beautiful and live I must have the soil for my roots to grow in; the sunlight to feed me; and the rain to quench my thirst, if I do not allow this into my life then I die, if I do I possibly live and possibly grow stronger. I have to allow so much inside me to live emotionally. I need to cautiously allow love into my life as well as give love, but not to the point that I give to much; a nice balance in life. I cannot let the tree next to me take all the water, I must have water myself. When you realize that someone is not appreciative of your love, you must stop, make sure that you take care of your needs, and if you must do this, you may have to let them go and take that piece of your heart. You will always have your memories to look on, and it is a piece of your past, a learning tool for life. I believe that I cannot fear changes as I do. It is stopping me from getting my water, sunlight, and soil to live. Keeping me from experiencing life. Keeps me from living the way life was meant to be savored. A friend of mine says, "If we resist life are we resisting death? If we resist death are we also resisting life?", something to ponder at least. Some of us say we do not fear death, but yet we fear living our life? Some people do not fear life but fear death, seems we all contradict ourselves with fear of emotions or fear of truly expressing ourselves. It seems to just be a big circle of emotions for me and I have been running and running in the circle. It's like a friend said once, he was on hold, circling and circling the airport, waiting for a place to land, but I am tired of holding in the sky, I am the only one to land this plane. I am the pilot of my life it is about time I take control and land.

Answer 1

Negativeness is created from others into your person. Maybe you care about too many people. When you care about too many people everything they do, everything they feel, everything they say affects you in one way or another. I used to care about so many people but now all that its dead. I now only care about 5 persons. My sister, my mother, my father, my girlfriend, and my best friend. This has helped me a lot. I know these people love me so negativeness its very little in my life. The problem with my strategy is that you let very little people into your life and the rest just bores you. That is the problem I am facing right now. But I think its better than being down most of the time. Remember that negative action comes from a positive one.

Answer 2

When your life is drawing to a close and you look back at all you've done what is it that you'd like to feel proud about? Those are the things we should strive to accomplish, whether they be smiling at strangers, making a million dollars, helping the needy or raising a great family. What holds you back? Many times it is fear. We, as humans, seem to fear failure more than most other things so we don't take risks, we stay safe, we don't experience as much as we're able. Were you raised in a religious upbringing? Many religions teach guilt and teach us to feel bad about ourselves. The original meaning of the word 'sin' is mistake or to miss the mark. If we don't do well at something instead of feeling guilty, we should try again until we master the task and feel good about that. Instead of spending a lot of time thinking about what holds you back, just decide what you want to do each day and do it. Persevere and soon you'll find the limitations that held you back have been broken by simple determination and a desire to do more. Best of luck to you! You can do anything you set your mind to.

Answer 3

Expect absolutely nothing.

You will have nothing to feel negative about, and everything will be positive..

(oh......... and don't watch comercials on tv).