I asked a close female friend that we need to lose contact for awhile(no time limit set)-so that I can get over my feelings for her.
She said that she don't deserve my feelings.
She also said “If thats how you feel sweetheart,ok and that maybe you do need time out”.She only wants to be friends.The conversation ended with an argument, with her calling me 2 faced and selfish.(asked her if she ever felt anything for me and for her to be truthful).Why would she call me this? We're close friends-we were never a couple.
We've not spoken for a month....tried to get in touch---she's not responded at all.
I just want to know WHAT I HAVE DONE?
Surely by me getting back in touch, she should recognise that I've delt with my feelings.
She said that we're only friends---could she have possibly fancied me?If so why didn't she tell me?
Wanted to be a true friend---thats why I asked for no contact for AWHILE---not for good....
2007-01-03 09:37:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds to me like she had stronger feelings for you other then just friendship.Sometimes when a female acts out in anger,it is to hide the real emotions inside.I think when you suggested no contact for a while,she was hurt over losing you and lashed out at you in anger to hide how she really feels about you.
If all you wanted was a true friend,then there was no need to send her away..Or are you hiding "your" true feelings for her?" Maybe a time out is best for both of you.It will give you time to think about your true feelings for each other.. good luck!
2007-01-03 09:55:35 · answer #1 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you've never been a couple. If you have feelings to her, why you want to be over it? Best relationships are these after friendships. When you told her that, she made up a fight, cause she got angry! you've been friends all this time and now you tell her you wanna be over the feelings you have for her!! She asks herself, what's wrong she's done, what's wrong with her! so you Delete the idea of a relationship between you! And face her with that!! Of course she made up a fight and doesn't reply your calls! You insulted her, that's the wrong you did.
My advice to you, is to leave her a message, telling her you did so because you were too afraid she refuses you, too confused about what to do and it was too hard to continue like "just" friends for you, of course that's if you still have feelings to her. If not, I don't think it's easy to get her back as old friends, and better to get over her.
2007-01-03 09:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by Reham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that she likes you even now. She probably can't face you after what happened and is probably pinning the blame on you for starting an argument with her even though you didn't. Some girl's say one thing when they mean another. She said you were friends but wanted to be more than that. I guess she expected you to feel something between the two of you and for you to make the first move. Which you didn't so she probably thinks if "i can't have all of you i don't want you at all".
2007-01-03 09:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true friends don't lose contact on purpose. When you say 'get over my feelings for her' - i presume you mean you'd started to fancy her.
What have you done? You crossed the line from friends to fancying her and told her. Once that line's been crossed then it's very difficult to go back again.
It may be that you will just have to move on. You can never turn the clock back. It could be that in time you may pick up your friendship, but don't bank on it.
sorry.
2007-01-03 09:43:33 · answer #4 · answered by Star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the back of her mind she will always think you want to be her significant other. She can't yet rectify the fact that you've shown sexual attraction to her. I would write this friendship off---sorry, but if she's not mature enough to move on after a month it's just not worth pursuing the friendship.
2007-01-03 09:41:13 · answer #5 · answered by Mythical Creature 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She had you! She had you entirely and SHE KNEW IT, and she probably took advantage of it.... and then you REALIZED what the heck was going on and told her you needed space. So you rejected her as a friend to better YOURSELF, and lose the feelings for her... Now she is showing her true colors. When you were close, she was probably asking you to do things for her--- Now she knows she cant do that anymore so why would she need you. Good luck... I say GOOD RIDDANCE
2007-01-03 09:41:40 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when you are friends with someone you don't need time out from them she probably felt rejected and that's why she is not interested anymore and you cannot tell a friend that its ok to be in contact only when you want to be its selfish and wrong thanks inadvance for the thumbs down but you wanted to know why
2007-01-03 09:42:32 · answer #8 · answered by julie t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you...things will NEVER be the same. While she may have had feelings for you (that's what it sounds like) you may be better, but she may not be. She may need more time. But sometimes things like these are hard to get over, and you may have to cut the strings completely. She may never be able to deal with this, and might not want to.
2007-01-03 09:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You chose not to have contact for a while.
She is choosing not to have contact with you at all!
Can you see the similarity.
If she had contacted you in your time out what would you have done?
2007-01-03 09:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by kiku 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋