How soon is too soon to get married, I have met the man of my dreams and we are already talking about marriage

Question

We have been dating for a few months now.

Answer 1

If it's real, you can wait a year. If you both feel the same a year from now, get married.

Answer 2

If you are truly meant for one another, waiting a year or so is nothing. I don't see the reason to rush, unless you are afraid if you slow down you might realize not all is perfect. Furthermore, and it may not be popular with some, I think people should at least live together for a year before they get married. It's not about sex(only partially), it's about living together.......which is a whole lot different than seeing each other every few days and talking on the phone. The challenge of co-existing with each other is the one that kills most marriages.

Answer 3

You wait til you know how he reacts when hes mad. You give it long enough so that if a person is promoting a false personality that eventually the real them comes out. Marriage is a huge commitment for LIFE supposedly so you need to know the things about him that are important to you. Women need to be on guard for things a man usually doesnt have to worry about. Read up on clues to watch for for a possible abuser. You can find them online. Is he controlling? Does he give you space when you need it? Does he listen to you? You need to think of what you want in a spouse then make sure he can live up to that (no ones perfect but you dont want a bad situation).
Do you know his friends and family? You should so you can learn more about him. Id give it a year at the very least and make sure you know him inside and out so there are no regrets. watch how he acts when you 2 get into a fight. If you havent had a fight yet then you are no where near ready to be married because you need to know how you both will deal with fights.

Answer 4

Each couple is different. My fiancee and I got engaged 7 months after we met and are getting married Sept 07. From the start of our first date we both knew that the other was the one.

Some people will say you should be together X amount of time and then be engaged X amount of time before getting married, which might have been ok for them, but might not be ok for everyone.

Just do what you feel comfortable with because you know the situation better than the rest of us do.

Answer 5

I think some people just know and you shouldn't have to wait a year or whatever.

The only warning signs are did either of you go through a messy breakup from a long-term relationship the week or month before you met? If so, you could just be transferring your feelings.

If you've no life-trauma's in the month or so before you met, then I'd say there's nothying wrong with being sure of this so soon.

Answer 6

That depends on what the reasons were your first marriage ended. If they were, like most marriages, and both parties were at fault then you have to ask yourself - have you fixed what was wrong on your side? If you're like so many 2nd and 3rd marriages - probably not.

I really hate divorce - but it's even worse when no one learns from the mistakes of the first one. It's like getting into a car wreck that was your fault and not learning from the accident and driving again in the exact same manner!

So you have to ask yourself honestly - are you a car accident waiting to happen a 2nd time? Or did you learn from the mistakes of the first accident?

Answer 7

I would say that by 2 1/2 years of dating he should already know if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. You should already know if you want to spend the rest of your life with him. In my mind anything before that is too soon. Time tells all if you don't let a relationship develop with a enough time you could miss something about a person. Wake up one day a say what the hell did I do???

Answer 8

If you really know whay you want, found out through trial and error, and he is it GO FOR IT slowly!

I dated my husband for 2 months before I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt, we almost eloped at 6 months, but wound up waiting two years. And you know what? We grew closer and stronger as a couple and more and more confident in what we had in each other. If that is happening for you, AWESOME. No need to rush it too too fast, though. If it's real, it will be there in a few more months, too.

Answer 9

You never know someone till you have been with them for at least one year, two better. At the start of any relationship, the emotions are very high and the warm fuzzies feel sooo good. But they are not what keeps you going in the long haul of life. Become best friends first and then see if the love is still there.

Answer 10

atleast a year before getting engaged, I think any sooner than that is just too fast

and have atleast a 6 month engagment.

faster than that to me seems like a shotgun wedding and that's not cool....

so hold off on kids until after the wedding....at a shotgun wedding all people talk about is how you trapped the man.....

and Im not married Im only 19 however Im in a very serious relationship and live with my bf...

Answer 11

If you can continue to be with him for a year, and you know everything is good, then I say go for it. But don't look the other way when something goes wrong and you don't want to admit it to yourself because you just want to get married. I think that is the #1 mistake right there. People change as they grow older, that is true, and you can grow and change as a couple. Just be sure that you know him for who he is and not what he wants to be....take some time with it..it is one of the most important decesions you will make.