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There are times when i'd be hanging out with some people but when their friends would come a long, i'd kind of feel left out. Sometimes i have no clue what to talk about and what to say. I am a very open person, but lately, because of this, i have been feeling really shy-this is a side of myself i have never seen before. Do you know of any icebreakers or topics that i could bring up? With anybody?

2007-01-03 09:29:43 · 7 answers · asked by snowgirl47 3 in Education & Reference Primary & Secondary Education

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You should definitely join a club or sport. This will give something you have in common with other people, and you won't have to say something as lame as "How was math class?" You can have fun with them, and as the season or year moves on, you will have gained a new talent and new close friends. You will have also brightened up your resume and added to your community service hours, not to mention have fun. If you really want to be more confident talking, join a group like debate team, or drama club. They rigorously practice confidence and good communication skills. Be the person to present in class. You'll get practice for important life skills and be more confident. After a year of presenting research projects, I was louder and more sure of myself. I also had the best presentations by the end of the year, as well as lots of new friends.

As for general icebreakers, you should talk about things that tick everybody off. A particularly evil or funny or lazy teacher is a good one (though don't cross the line. don't be mean. it's ok to tease or joke, but not ok to seriously make fun of someone that hasn't done anything to you.) When exams or tests come close, you can talk about how nervous or unprepared you are about them. If you're shy, then have other people start talking for you, and then jump in. Add your own input, and you'll have joined in the conversation. Once you have done this for a while, you'll eventually feel comfortable enough to be more outgoing.

I'm a junior and I can tell you I was a quiet freshman. But truly and honestly, I did this, and by sophomore year I was saying hi to a million people in the halls every day. I wasn't nervous before talking anymore, and I was a lot more confident. Not to mention I did better on presentations and public speaking. I doesn't hurt to be confident and have a good self-image when you go to school either. If you know you're cool and original and good-looking, you'll have a huge confidence boost.

Good luck! I'm sure you'll be fine!

2007-01-03 09:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Emmy 2 · 2 0

At your age music is a good topic. Also current movies or television shows...the thing to do is hang back sometimes and just listen. Get the feel for your new friends likes and dislikes and you will be able to join in the conversations naturally. Just remember that high school friendships can change very quickly, and don't allow anyone else's opinion of you to become the truth. I was in the very same situation in 9th grade...I had just moved to a new state, to a small town where everyone had grown up together and I didn't allow myself to become an outsider. I was lucky to have an outgoing personality and enough of a sense of self-worth not to settle for the wrong friends just to have friends. I am now pushing 40 and I turned out alright...

2007-01-03 09:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by jay_fox_rok_god 3 · 2 0

Don't be silly girls can be bitchy and horrible. Just wait until they want to start on someone else and they will. Groups of girls don't have anything else to do and they just moan about othe people because of their own insecurities. If you like this guy then get to know him more and hang out with him. If he's popular then get to know him once you crack one person and they think your cool then other people will look at you different because they judge you and don't know you. Ignore the girls. I bet your not ugly it's them who is ugly. They need to grow and get a life. Just wait until they leave school and get slapped in the face with real life. You will be so much more successful than they will. Always think your better than them. You don't have to ***** and moan like them. Because your not that type of person. People will look up to you and you will be a great inspiration to them. Stay cool and think pretty because YOU ARE :) and they are not. Hope it all helps Brooke xx

2016-03-29 06:23:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Just continue to be a decent person. Don't let your personality change because of this; it happens all the time at a new school.

Focus on your studies, be friendly, choose your friends carefully and in a few months, you'll forget you even had to ask this question.

2007-01-03 09:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 1 0

Hey, i've been there. Get involved with a group or two. Once you have something in common with someone, like both being in the school play or chorus or something, it gives you stuff to talk about. Keep going it gets better.

2007-01-03 09:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

well, i was kinda in a same situation! im an open person and like christian rock... but most of my new friends liked heavy rock or punk rock bands. so i kinda studied up on them and listened a little to their music. Find out what your new friends, or just people you would like to be friends with, like to do, listen to, or play!

2007-01-03 09:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

try joining a club so you can share your intrest with people like you.

2007-01-03 09:32:23 · answer #7 · answered by mud92 1 · 1 0

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