We can't move, and we don't want to hurt his feelings. He's not a bad guy, just a know it all and always drinking our beer. I know he's just lonely. But it's just sooo much to endure! When we didn't answer our doorbell last night, he actually came in on his own and set himself down until we came back downstairs. I could shoot myself for not locking the door. If we make any plans with our "good" neighbors, we have to be very careful not to let him know or he'll invite himself everytime.
I know all the funny answers already like, scream & act like a fool, move poisen him, fling poo..... Appreciate any help....
2007-01-03 09:23:42 · 6 answers · asked by flandurka1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
When he comes over, tell him this is a bad time, you're busy and do not have time for a visit. Do not let him in, after telling him this, close the door and make sure it's locked. Repeat as necessary, he'll get the hint. You don't owe it to him to include him in any plans with the other neighbors. I'm sure they all feel the same way about him.
2007-01-03 10:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats stressful isn't it. o.ok.i think of you're able to desire to be hassle-free and say to him next time he comes around, say which you're busy on the instant and, you will permit him understand while it is a stable time for him to return over, and additionally ask him to telephone you earlier he comes as you have gotten visiters and don't want to be interrupted. Or say your no longer properly and don't choose enterprise and merely want to be at homestead in mattress. I imply in case you surely need to get to the factor then merely tell him which you like his enterprise and prefer having him come over, yet which you have a great number of issues to do and your busy and could want to maybe get closer him as quickly as each and every 2 wks. If he seems disenchanted properly then he insn't very information, and that's no longer your undertaking. you won't be in a position to thrill all human beings you have a existence too. i'm hoping it works out in spite of the undeniable fact that way you opt for to tell him.
2016-10-06 09:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first invite him over and when he gets there talk with him and tell him how you feel. Maybe he doesn't know that he is intruding. But after the talk, well it shoudln't hurt his feeling it will make him think that what if he kust walk in a house and someone thought he was a burgular and shot him. Just explain to him what you'll feel and he should know. SO good luck.
2007-01-03 09:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry
I Have One To But Just Tell Your Parents ,Or Nicly Tell Him That Your Busy At The Door ,Or You Could Lock The Door! :-)
2007-01-03 09:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Michael A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set a boundary with him. If his feelings get hurt, it's not your problem. It's not a reflection of you. It's a reflection of his brokeness. If this is hard for you, get around a group of people with whom you feel comfortable with and safe with - some folks that respect and love you and start practicing setting boundaries with them. As your "no" muscle grows it'll be easier to say no to needy folks. I learned this by some great authors - Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. They've got a great book called, "Boundaries" you might want to check out. Good luck!!!
2007-01-03 09:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of you are adults ---tell him that when you want him to visit that you will invite him, until then LEAVE you alone.If he doesn't take that bluntness, tell your hubby to pull him aside---MAN TO Neighbor......He'll get the point.
2007-01-03 09:36:04 · answer #6 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋