Do I confront her with this revalation that I found on a printed paper on her desk? I was over at the house to pick up mail etc and it was right there so I didn't go digging even though it is "our" house. I am worried I may be too naive and she is getting advice from her family that has been married & divorced many times. We were together 22 years. any thoughts on verifying if ANy MORE like this exist? She has told me to my face last week when we sat down to meet about bills that she has not opened any accounts. Perhaps I misunderstood or this is a line of credit not an account so she is not really lying but hey, it is deceitful. HELP comments please. I do not want and violent or mean women bashing comments please.
2007-01-03 09:20:26 · 13 answers · asked by bSquirrel 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's a "legal separation" that you can file for so your assets will remain in place. Then any debt that she may incur will not be your responsibility if you do end up getting divorced. It costs a little money, but if you think there's still hope for your marriage to work out, filing for a divorce is not the right solution.
Also, if she won't go to counseling with you, go by yourself.
2007-01-03 09:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. She has a hard time discussing money with you, and obviously feels the need to hide some financial dealings from you. I guarantee she feels controlled by you, and doesn't feel she can discuss money with you without feeling trapped. I did the same thing. It's not right and it's not fair, but I did what I had to do to feel safe and feel like I had a way out if I needed one. Money is the most fought about thing in most marriages, but her lack of honesty and candor does not mean she doesn't love you and doesn't mean she hasn't honored her vows. Give her more credit than that!
2016-05-22 23:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you filed for legal separation? If so, then you are not responsible for what she does that is in her name only....if these accounts are truely in only her name. Make sure your name is not on these as a co-signer!!!! The only way anything can reflect on you is if in the division of debt that will be done in the divorce assigns you as a responsible party. This would apply to debt incurred during the marriage. I went thru this when my husband and i had separated (not legally because I was pregnant with our child and in Missouri you cannot file anything if you're pregnant) and he racked up thousands upon thousands on credit cards and a new car....I was NOT help responsible for these. Best of luck.
2007-01-03 09:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by casw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get your credit report and see if any credit cards have been added under your SS#....it will show you everything.
You need to talk to your lawyer ASAP for if she runs these things up and your legally married you could still be held responsible for it unless you can prove it was done after legal separation. Some states don't have "legal" separation.....only divorce......so run, not walk and tell your attorney what you find out on the credit report
My boss just went thru a divorce and he had let his ex have one credit card when they "separated" but was in his name.....he lowered the credit line....duhhhhh and she was to pay for it....she maxed it out then mailed it back to him saying she couldn't pay for it.....
2007-01-03 09:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsygrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm currently going thru a divorce. Once your " Legal separation" is filed thru the county. Each of you are responsible for any debts from that date on. I know what I'm talking about.. you'll have the last laugh!
2007-01-03 10:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would inquire about these findings especially if she is opening credit accounts that are linked with your name on it.
2007-01-03 09:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by ppv918 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you filed for divorce usally from that point on it should seprate you from liability also turn her in if she is using your name for credit i hope you filed legal sepration thats what it is for if frees you from a vindictive person screwing up any future for you talk to a lawyer or legal aid good luck!!
2007-01-03 09:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by PAULINA S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you file for divorce right away, she can open any account she desires, and you will be liable.
2007-01-03 09:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a legal separation--that way anything she does financially is not your responsibility
2007-01-03 09:33:42 · answer #9 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should confront her about what you found. don't accuse her of wrong doing until you know for sure what's goin on.
2007-01-03 09:25:37 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋