He claims that the baby is not born to him. But it is not true. His mom had another affair and left his father for him. She also sow a seed of doubt in my husbands mind. So my husband does not trust me too. Now he has filed a divorce and not seen his son till date. I am currently working but away from my child for money without which it would be a problem. I am in a dilema if i have to quite my job and stay with my child
2007-01-03 09:19:07 · 11 answers · asked by hello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd have the child support enforcement agency order a paternity test to prove he is the father and pursue child support and any available government aid available to you.
If the child was born during the marriage or if he is listed on the birth certificate then he is financial responsible for the child since birth and you may be able to get "back" child support, especially if he left you and hasn't helped financially since then.
Keep a running total of any doctor's bills, how much you spend on diapers, food, and clothing you spend so that you can show the court your expenses. This can help you greatly. Also keep a notebook of when the father contacts you or visits the child.
Sorry the man is a pig. Sounds like his mother really messed him up for you.
Good luck!
2007-01-03 09:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
iI see no reason why you would have to quit your job, just because of a divorce. If he fighting child support because he feels this is not his child, the court will order a DNA to prove him right or wrong. If he the legal Father the judge will set forth a child support dollar amount for your husband to pay to the court each month. Since, he hasn't ever seen the child I'm sure he isn't wanting to have custody of your son. If you have sufficient arrangements for your son to be taken care of while you work, then your atty. will ask for a sufficient amount to cover the upkeep of this child.
Best of Luck For You and Your Son.
2007-01-03 09:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children usually mirror their parents behavior to a large degree. Neither one of the children sound very stable, therefore I would suggest the same about their father. He also seems to encourage the relationship with his older daughter and it doesn't sound very healthy. The only thing you are doing wrong is putting up with it. I suggest that you determine whether you really want to remain involved with this person. If you come to the conclusion that it depends on whether he changes, then tell him that you are going to leave if the relationship he and his daughter share doesn't mature into a more typical father/daughter type. Of course, you have to mean it and be willing to move on if he doesn't (or isn't willing) to change. If you decide that you can't live without him, then you'll have to change your point of view and accept their relationship. If you realize that his type of person tend to lead towards poor relationships, then bite the bullet and get out. I think you probably already know what to do, but want to make sure there aren't easier alternatives. There probably aren't. Best of luck.
2016-05-22 23:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't have the money for a lawyer to me. So have you thought about going to get financial aid ? If you do this they will ask you who the father is and you tell them his name they will take care of getting child support from him and then if he wants to fight it he will have to pay for the DNA test that will prove who the father is. And mean while you will be getting the help you need, I know in Ca. they will even provide day care so that you can go to school or work. Do what you have to do and don't worry about what this dork or his mama thinks.
2007-01-03 09:30:29 · answer #4 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single full time dad of a 2 year old, His mom has not seen him for over a year she calls every once in awhile, I don't go after her for child support because if she cared she would help out, I figure if I make her pay child support she will travel the 2 hours to come make my life a living hell, all I am saying is if he cared he would volunteer to get a blood test he probally knows its his he just does not want to pay it.
2007-01-03 09:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by dpfitzell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh yes,you have to get legal advice.I suggest you call your county social security office. They can help you get food stamps, general assistance and job training.They will help ,also, with low income housing,if you need it..
AND, DON"T let the father give you ANY SAD STORIES about not being able to pay child support. One more very important thing. Be sure you get and never forget his social security number.It easier to track him down.I'llsay a prayer for you.You'll be okay.You just can't do it alone.
2007-01-03 10:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you both are still married, you need t seek spousal and child support. Chances are you will get both. Get an attorney, your husband will have to pay court cost for you as well.
2007-01-03 09:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a paternity test. Sounds to me like this is just his excuse and there's a lot more to it. Maybe another woman?
2007-01-03 09:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Torchbug 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to a lawyer, get a DNA test and prove he's the father.
2007-01-03 09:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to your family for help
2007-01-03 10:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋