how do you get to be like buddhists; never wanting anything (desire) & be happy?

Answer 1

do everything you wanna do once. remember the experience. then just get over it. doing acid, ecstasy helps too (tremendously)
just be open to enlightenment
get used to masturbation

Answer 2

First thing first, that's a concept you want to achieve and it doesn't mean you will reach it just because you're a buddhist. Trust me, I've been a Buddhist most of my life and I'm still trying to get there...

Learn to be satisfy with what you have. Back in KS, for some reason, I have to be competitive with all my friends like I have to get pay more then them, I have to buy a nicer car, etc... Then I move out on my own to a different town where I don't know anybody, now, those things seem to matter less to me. I guess it's depend on who you surround yourself with, if they always brag about everything & rub it in, hard to not b jealous. However, I can let go of the materialistic stuff now, and it does feel a lot better when you don't have to worry about how much you make as long as you can afford your life style. Turn off the tv & don't watch those celebrities bragging their stuff anymore. Volunteer to help the less fortunate, then you just feel better about yourself and your life because u will learn to appreicate what you have. When you think I'm at dead bottom, there are always someone who suffer worse than you. That is the start for me, I still have other issues of wants that I'm still working on and that's being marry & start a family. We are human, we are programmed from birth to be greedy & stuff, so it'll take times to learn to let go of things. Hope it helps...

Answer 3

You mean like Buddhist ideals. I know plenty of Buddhists that don't believe in that, as well as those that do.

You should read Walden by Henry David Thoreau. It's an easy (though a bit long) read. It's a reaction against material obbsession and the barrier that possessions set up against the interaction between man and nature, man and tranquility, man and peace, etc. It's very famous, and it is worth the time. It details his own journey into the forest, to build his own house and to live off of a few dollars a month. Yes, it was written about a hundred years ago, but his ideals and inspirations are the same. Though I doubt he'll inspire you to run off into the woods to live off of gophers, I know he'll show you how to live life with more caution when you consider what makes you content in life.

Answer 4

Life is a lovely God-given gift. True, there is the problem of sin which diminishes and harms it's loveliness, but why should you want the negation of life, the negation of desire, the negationof happiness.

The Buddhists meditate to get there. I don't think many of them make it. The Jainists were so pessimistic about the possibilities that they recommended suicide if you couldn't achieve the enlightened state in 12 years.

The Hindus refuse to be believe the cycle of karma, birth, and re-birth can ever be avoided. Even if you make it once, you still have to go through the whole process in the next creation.

What I am trying to say to you is that, having studied it out, I don't see as a very desirable option.

Enjoy what there is to enjoy--the smells of fresh grass, of flowers, of food. Enjoy conversation with friends. Learn what is important to you. The God of the Bible never meant us to not enjoy his creation--else why would he have made it so wonderful, gorgeous, even funny.

Maggie

Answer 5

Some key aspects to this belief system are detachment and the middle way. Knowing the material world and the spiritual world work hand in hand assists in finding the middle way. We are humans, possessing physical bodies which require food, shelter and such to fuel the body. As humans we also possess emotions and intellect. Using these, physical, emotional and mental as tools to express the spiritual life helps one determine the middle way and learn the way of detachment, which you termed as not wanting anything. Detachment simply means we aren't attached to the mundane items and happenings because we're able to see a bigger picture and know this life and all it holds is but a step on a journey. You'll not only be happy but filled with a radiant joy as you realize the spirit working through you to make the world a better place for all its occupants.

Answer 6

First secure the things you definately need in life, like a home, water, food, some clothes (if you don't already have this to some degree). Then figure out what you need to do (work wise) to meet those demands. Eliminate TV and gaming, and the computer (for awhile at least), and contemplate yourself. Try to think about those events that were important...maybe write down some things that you remember. Do this a lot and try to discover that which is most important to you. This is just a beginning of a lifelong quest. Good luck on your journey.

Answer 7

Become a Buddhist.

Answer 8

I was 19 yrs old and a brooding little idiot when I "came up" with this crazy notion of the only way to solve my problems was by giving up trying to solve them. Kind of like in that movie War Games. Later I read the Tao te Ching. It reinforced my intuition that the reason why some people can never achieve happiness is because they put limitations and road blocks like.... money, marriage, house etc.

Answer 9

Not wanting stuff is much easier than most think. I have gotten to the point where I am holding onto my desire because I am actually scared of not wanting anything. Once you decide to let it go, you let it go.

Answer 10

Inner meditation on God. it helps to have the blessings of a saint with the power to baptize in spirit. See syda.org/theguru. swami chidvilasananda has this power, she teaches siddha yoga the same as jesus did, only with much more clarity. for the roots of christianity see www.stephen-knapp.com/articles_to_read. this is an unbiased, factual site giving the history of christianity, buddhism, and islam.

Answer 11

Please don't misunderstand.

It's OK to want things. It causes suffering to want it too much.

I would love to have a million dollars and a house on the beach. However, its OK if I don't have those things.

Be realistic.