How do chose when you have feelings for 2 people?

Question

My ex has strong feelings for 2 people--yes I am one. She says she love us both. We have worked out the problems to caused the divorce. But the problem is that before we did she go involved with another person. I truly wish for her to be happy. She says she loves me alot maybe more than him. I am just wondering if this has happened to anyone and how do you chose?

Answer 1

Let her go and find someone way better. You don't need the aggravation.

Answer 2

if she is seeing someone else, than it may not go as u want it to. old problems may have been worked out, u hope, but now there is another problem to deal with. she got involved with him, because she wanted to, didn't just happen, it was a choice she made. i would back off and distance myself until she made her choice, but i would not hold my breath, or set myself up for disappointment. just live your life, if u get a chance to go out with someone new do it, as she has someone right now. but u know if she really loved u, she wouldn't even be with this other person. if u wish her happiness, than just back off awhile, and know that it could go either way.

Answer 3

I would bail if I were you. And you should be a bit angry too (you can forgive her, but anger is normal). I'd rather be alone that with somebody who has no integrity and doesn't respect my feelings enough not to go sleeping around, let alone get seriously involved with somebody else. She sure wasn't thinking about you when she went a did that, so why are you thinking about her feelings? Who do you think you are? Jesus?

She is disrespecting your feelings. She's selfhish. Ditch her. You need to learn to set some boundaries, Buddy.

Answer 4

Personalities rarely change.
Divorced people often play romantic mind games.
Its the my new boyfriend & I want part of your paycheck game.
If you insist on playing romantic mind games, let me suggest that you protect your future by getting a vasectomy first.
Nasty, wicked mind games result in unwanted pregnancy & child support money as much as 40% - 50% coming out of the man's paycheck.
If you play these games you might be eating garbage from a trash can & sleeping on the street.
Good luck.

Answer 5

If you have feelings for two people, you should realize that you're not in any way capable of a relationship until you get your head on right.

On the other hand.........if you are truly going to stand in line with fingers crossed, hoping she picks you....you are aslo not ready for a relationship, and are likely to be abused if you enter one.

Good Luck.

Answer 6

You don't really chose. It's natural to be attracted to others and have feelings for more than one person and to see more than one person. Traditional relationships are unnatural to alot of people.

Answer 7

Don't stand for that!! Either she wants to work things out with you or she doesn't! She can't have it both ways. That is unfair to you and the other man. Stand up for yourself.

Answer 8

sounds like she is trying to have her cake and eat it too,she is keeping both in limb til she finds out who who is going to do the most for her ,and with whom she can benefit most from,and this is not right-if she loved you it would be an easy decision YOU-obviously she doesnt ,move on.

Answer 9

I agree with "New Person".