Question for women: If you had studied for many years and had a career would you give it up in order to ......

Question

have children and raising them properly in order to become good people?
( if your husbant earned enough money)
i mean if you have to work 10+ hours daily you wont have time to spend with your children and you will have to get a babysitter

Answer 1

I don't believe you need to give up your career in order to raise good children. I think that a woman can have a very successful career and a strong family at the same time. Yes, you may not always have as much time you would like, but I think children benefit a lot by seeing their mother successful outside the home. In many cases, those children grow up with more drive and ambition since they learn by example.

Answer 2

This is 2007 girl we been bring home the bacon frying up in a pan and never ever letting him forget his a MAN since the 60's
I wake at 5:30 get 2 kids out the house for school Ages 14 and 5 then drive 40min. to get to work for 8:00 I get off at 5:00pm 40 min drive home. cook dinner some times having to cook 2 different meals (husband a picky eater) Clear dishes check home work play with kids get them off to bed. I'm in bed by 10:30 ready for that last part I stated above then do it all over again the next day. you just need to work out a schedule that works for you it's hard at first but will soon become old hat . Just because I work doesn't mean my kids will not be GOOD PEOPLE as you call them.

Answer 3

Good Question! I didn't study for a really long time but I was making more then my husband when we met and I have put my career on hold a bit so he could come work in Europe. I am really looking forwand to going back and working again. Of course in a couple years we want to have kids and so obviously you have to take time off to pop them out but then do you stay at home? I know I wouldn;t want to work 10 hours days but regular hours or maybe part time. My parents worked when I was a kid and I actually remember a lot of the time with sitters quite fondly because I got to play with other kids and we were always outside having adventures.

Sometimes I think I would like to stay home until the first one goes to school, or both if they are close together. Then they only spend a couple hours at the sitters.

Us women need to have out life too if it is important to us. I feel like I am good at my job and I think it makes me valuable in society so I wouldn't want to give that up completely but you have to have balance and so does the father.

Good luck with your decision.

Answer 4

If my husband earned enough money, I would take off time to be a stay at home mom. No question. It's something I've wanted since childhood, and something I feel is way more fulfilling for me than my job. However, if I were in a field I really loved and felt good about, I'd probably be more willing to work part-time or set up something with the grandparents!

Answer 5

Your children growing up to be good people has nothing to do with the mother working. In many cases the kids are taught more and become better in social situations than if mommy stays home all the time. Do what makes YOU happy, then you will have happy children.

Answer 6

I am a living witness that you can have a career and still raise children 'properly'. Exactly what is 'properly' and by who's standards are you judging? My children are great people and I worked and so did their father. We made our time together count.

Answer 7

Yes, but only if my husband earned enough money. I've been married twice, and have 3 kids. I would LOVE to have stayed home with them, but netiher hubby was much of a breadwinner. Luckily, I had a very good support system, and found day care providers that shared my values, so my kids (all teenagers now) turned out to be very good people.

Answer 8

it's something that i would have to really think hard about. How is your marriage?
A lot of women don't realize this but make sure you trust your husband 110% because if you do this then 10 yrs down the road or whatever you hubby cheats or anything then you have no job, no money, and nothing to your name. Just take all that in and protect yourself. Maybe have a written agreement signed if this is what you choose.
good luck

Answer 9

Sure I think my children would benefit if I were to stay home with them. So I say yes I would give up my career for my children.

Answer 10

Enjoying your children and raising them the right way, is a reward within itself.
What is the true point of having children, if you are never there for them.