What do you think is the most difficult year of marriage?

Question

The first? The fourth (according to research)? The seventh (seven-year-itch?)

Answer 1

For me it is the first. This is my third marriage and it has only been nine months and he is already screaming the word divorce. My first two I walked out on. So maybe it is karma biting me in the but.

Answer 2

I think it is different for everyone. Every relationship has different circumstances. With me, the first two years were really hard. I found out that I was pregnant 2 months after we were married. I became really sick, so he spent the first year taking care of me and I couldnt give him what he was giving me. The second year was hard because we had a new baby and we didn't have the time to just be married. HE was put second.
With some people it is different. And, I don't think that it is a whole year that it is worse than others I think it is just different times. Different things that happen cause there to be friction in the relationship. I hope I didn't ramble too much.

Answer 3

The first 5.

Answer 4

Every couple is different of course. There's not just one bad year that is true for all. Ours was about years 11-14!!! Now it's so much better and will only get better from here, because we are totally committed to making it work. It helps when the kids get a little older, etc. Everyone's circumstances are different, but you will experience hard years but just don't give up on each other. It will be worth it. Treat your spouse how you'd like to be treated. Don't be selfish, that is a real big problem in marriages.

Answer 5

Wow... In February I will be married for 23 years. The hardest years of our relationship was the seventh year and not because of the sever-year-itch). It was difficult because you start to settle and feel comfortable in the relationship. What people don't understand is that marriage is hard work and you have to work hard at keeping the lines of communication, respect and love alive.

Answer 6

I don't think there is an easiest or most difficult year of marriage. Marriage is definitely a challenge. The most important thing is love. There has to be a lot of love and that's what really makes a marriage work. It's true when people say, if you really love someone, you will make it work. It is so true. Times will always be tuff, and there are going to be times where either one or the both of you will want to get out, but if you two people truly love each other, then they will make it work. We always wonder how two people can be together for 50 plus years, and their answers are always, love.

Answer 7

The first is often difficult also as after the Honeymoon stage ends many find things that they were not aware of prior to living under the same roof and causes many problems. When I married the minister told us that the four main reason people argue are: 1) Communication, 2) Money, 3) Sex, and 4) Communication. She explained that Communication was mentioned twice because of its importance. Often during the first year people are afraid to say what needs to be said, whereas after being married longer they are more likely to say things, and this often is the cause of many problems.

Answer 8

Well I am in my first and it is hard, interesting, but hard. We have to get used to living with someone and learning there little issues and habits. We both get annoyed with each other and snap sometimes. We talk about it all a lot though and laugh about it later.

Why is the fourth bad?

Answer 9

Even though my husband and I lived together for 9 months before we got married. The 1st year hands down was the hardest year. I think is depends on the couple if they have lived together before, and how well they know each other.

Answer 10

WOW good question. HUM??? I think it would depend on if there were any real trying situations in a particular year of the marriage. Hopefully it would make the marriage even stronger to pass each hurtle.