I love my friends, and I think their awsome, and I can trust them with anything. But I don't know if I should tell them that I'm bi. It took my 2 years to tell me old friends, and now I'm in a new school. I've only known my friends for 3 months disculding 2 of my old friends who already know. Should I tell them???
2007-01-03 08:29:55 · 30 answers · asked by Lyena L 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You should be open with your friends. If they don't accept you as who you are then they are really not your friends.
2007-01-10 08:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by happybibottom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to tell them for yourself - it sucks holding back secrets from people that you love and you shouldn't have to.
Just be prepared for worse case scenarios - and understand that some of your friends may not know how to take it. Just stand on your own two strong feet and don't let them make you feel any less then you are. You are not hurting anybody. If they can't take it, then they don't deserve to be your friend.
And oh yes, communication is key, make sure you listen to them in case they should have any questions, curiosities or concerns. Miscommunication is the root of most disagreements.
2007-01-03 16:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am bi and found it very difficult to tell people but that was made easy for me as it got leaked to my whole school by someone. i denied it for ages but in the end i realised i should just tell the truth and stop letting other people dictate my sexuality. people didnt take it too well when i told them but you soon find out who are your real mates and who isnt. if they dont like it tough. they should like you for who you are, not what. lots of people are scared of what is different, im not sure how old you are but if you are young u will find as u grow up people wont care at all and most people will think its great! there are lots more bi people out there than you would think. make sure if you do tell them that u dont act of it as a big thing and just play it down. if you seem like you dont care what others think, they wont be so bothered, but if you show people that you are a bit worried about what they will think about you they will tease a lot more. dont worry, its perfectly normal and if you ever need a friend to chat to check out www.myspace.com/xxxxcrcxxxx thats me, add me. good luck
2007-01-03 16:38:26 · answer #3 · answered by xxxcrcxxx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is different. Some like to come right out, and talk about their sexuality openly. Some prefer to stay quiet unless asked about it, or until it just so happens to come up in a conversation. I'm one of those people who don't say anything unless asked, or it comes up in a conversation. Of course I'm proud, but I don't want the whole world to know all of my business.
Think of this, if you think your friends are mature enough to treat you like a normal human being than that's great. You should do it. But remember that some people grow up differently, and believe that being gay is wrong. Be prepared. I'm not saying you'll loose friends over it, but you never know.
2007-01-03 16:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Q~T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you are younger (say in high school) your friends may be trustworthy, but other people who might hear about it won't be. Unless it becomes an issue in your relationships with them (as in you're becoming involved with them) it's probably better just to leave it alone for now. You be comfortable with you, but if you're still dealing with all that HS bull, don't put yourself through that. If you're older, in college, what the heck? You're free as a bird.
2007-01-03 16:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by smartsassysabrina 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you're ready to face the reality of it, than yes.
I don't know how old you are and often stuff like that spreads around schools very fast....so unless you want it to be completely out there I wouldn't mention it.
Do you have any other bi friends? sometimes it creeps people out..
just write up the pros (goods) and cons (bad) of telling them..and think of everything possible...
2007-01-03 16:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, it's hard to come out to new friends. Use the same approach as you did with your old friends. Feel them out first - this may take some time. Once you develop your comfort with them, and you think there's a need for them to know, then "come out."
You have to ask yourself:
Is there a need for them to know?
Is this important for you to 'open up' to them?
2007-01-03 16:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by ✯~I♥NYC~✯ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depends on why you are afraid to tell them. if some thing bad could happen to you from people finding out than you should wait to tell them. coming out can be scary. i am 18 years old and i am gay i just started coming out. with my friends i have found that it actually brings us closer not having a secret between us. but all of my friends are ok with gay people. do any of your friends have any out gay or bi friends. are they open minded if they are not it may take them time to except you or they may reject you. but if they really are your friends they should except you when you are honest about your self. good luck with what ever you decide
2007-01-03 17:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by joe s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple fact that you have to ask the question is telling on how much you actually can trust them. It's up to you though. One of those personal thing that no one can give a valid answer to.
2007-01-03 16:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-01-03 17:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by shamrock5858 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this is something you should keep to yourself...it's great you told your old friends but you knew them for 2 years. These are some people you just met. I wouldn't risk it.
2007-01-03 16:33:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋