how do i tell her?

Question

i have this old friend, she droped all of her friends for this new boyfriend. and me and all of my other friend know that he is messing around on her. but she wont belive us if we tell her. they are living together and have been together for almost a year. and he has been messing around an her for almost the whole time. and i tryed to tell her in the begging but she blew me off. how can i tell her? to where she might believe me?

and she was like a sister to me. we were insepratable for like a year.

theres really no way i can bust him he is a cop. and its my friends sister in law he doing it with.

Answer 1

I'm not sure you can. Looks like she want to believe what she hopes to be true. Get out of the middle of it, it can backfire on you.

When she finds out what's happening, be her friend.

If someone else tries to get you to tell her again, refuse. Tell them to take pictures and send it to her - you don't get involved. In this day of cell phone cameras, someone is bound to get a good shot.

But this will destroy her. Do you want to be responsible for it? Be her friend when she can no longer deny it.

Bless you, sweetie, I know you're trying to protect her.

Answer 2

In this kind of situation, she won't listen to you --- unless you have proof. Besides, how do you know he's messing around on her? If you don't know and just based your answer on opinions, then she'll never believe you. Get a photo of him w/another girl, record him talking crap about your friend, etc., then show it to her.

Answer 3

She'll eventually see the light. If you've tried, and she won't listen, just be there for her when she realizes how she messed up. She'll really need you as a friend then.

Answer 4

Honestly, you have to let her make her mistakes. She isnt going to want to believe you and it could hurt your friendship more if you keep pressing the subject. You tried to be a good friend and tell her and she didn't want to listen.

Answer 5

Sometimes love is blind. Tell her what you know even though that wont help but at least you got it off your chest. Maybe with you and her old friends telling her she might wake up and realize who he really is.

Answer 6

Can you get proof that he is cheating on her? With proof, it will be hard for her to disregard what you are saying. Also, consider talking to the boyfriend yourself. Let him know that you know who he is cheating with and that if he does not discuss his affair with your friend, you will be forced to do it yourself. You may also consider talking to her parents and letting them know that he is cheating on her. Your friends' well being is in your best interest. He is cheating on her and subjecting her to who knows what kind of diseases. Don't give up on her, she needs you to do this!

Answer 7

the best thing that you could do is tell her but that didnt work so leave it alone she will eventually find out and come back to you guys but if she was your real frind she wouldnt just blow off something like that

Answer 8

If she wont listen then she will have to find out on her own. Unless you can show him cheating it propbably wont matter. Dont stress yourself over her future heartache.

Answer 9

If think she will not believe you and you feel so strongly about her knowing. I think you should just prove it to her. Show her proof and
if she dosen't listen, then she's on own.

Annie

Answer 10

if she won't listen to u there is no more u can do for her. she is in denial and probably still isn't open to what u have to say as it would just be to painful for her to face.