My wife is a good gal, but she suffers from OCD Obsessive compulsive disorder and in recent years alcohol abuse. She hurts me by putting me down in front of her familly and friends. I do everything for her. I clean, cook, work, take care of her familly. And maintain her with designer jewlery and all material goods. She constantly compares me with other guys, with me being inferior. Most of the time she blames me for anything that goes wrong. She always has bad wishes towards my familly including children. I try so hard to make her happy. Sometimes with all the disapointment and receiveing constant verbal abuse through-out the night, I get to a point where I react. I am so ashamed, I know its wrong. I wish that I can go back in time and undo it. I hate myself. Leaving her will only hurt her as she has grown so dependant on me. She is like a child, my child. But we are both so misrable. She regrets marrying me. What do I do I want things to work out.
2007-01-03 08:22:32 · 8 answers · asked by Mikey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The part that troubles me is, "constant verbal abuse thoughout the night." An excellent step would be to stop subjecting yourself to her abuse. As soon as it starts, matter-of-factly say, "I consider that insulting. I am not going to listen to insults." And then leave. Go to another room and lock the door, or, better yet, leave the house. Take a walk around the block or a short drive. Or use a CD or MP3 player with headphones for awhile. Anything to remove yourself for at least 15 minutes. Repeat this behavior again and again, as often as she insults you. The behavior will decline over time.
2007-01-03 08:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In spite of the fact that she is ill, it doesn't sound like you are a happy man -- or partner. No relationship is good when one beats up the other. No matter what the excuse or reason is. The fact that you state she regrets marrying you, says volumes. You are getting something out of this relationship whether you realize it or not....like, say, being a martyr? YOU are doing everything, she just says you are inferior--and you are staying...why?? You have to think carefully about this. You are both miserable. If only one partner wants things to work, it won't work. It takes two.
Get out of this while you can. She will surprise you at what she can do if you don't enable her to 'not do anything'. She will get well or change if she has a reason...and if she is on her own, she will have that reason. Sorry, I think, you need to move on, and I rarely ever recommend that. Good luck.
2007-01-03 08:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have so much to say about this I don't know where to begin. She's not a child.. don't treat her like one. She's dependent upon you because you let her. It's time to put your foot down and make her grow up by giving her responsibilities. Let her know that her behavior is inappropiate and you will no longer stand for it. The abuse must stop. Whomever is doing/saying it seek treatment....When you reach your breaking point about what's been going on.. give her an ultimatum that she gets help or ........ you decide what to do if she refuses to get help. It's not a marriage if both of you are resentful or unhappy!!
2007-01-03 08:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Six Pack
2. No make that a 12 Pack
3. Baseball Bat
4. Glove so you leave no prints.
5. Big Trash Bag
2007-01-03 08:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for the both of you. I hope she is on some medication to even her mood swings out. If she is taking medication and it still is this bad....I suggest councling. If you already tried councling then maybe get a divorce as you would have tried everything. Be prepared....you will have to give her alimony.....and she may squeeze you for every penny.
2007-01-03 09:28:20 · answer #5 · answered by Lana Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are both unhappy, then move out, get divorced and start over.. there is no reason to live your whole life unhappy. and you don't deserve to be treated like that, and you shouldn't be doing those things to her either. you two are feeding off eachother, and it needs to end somewhere, either the things are going to stop, and work on the relationship, maybe go to counceling, or get divorced and move on.
2007-01-03 08:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by Candi J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think someone needs to dust off his pimp-hand!!!!
Mr Happy
:o)
2007-01-03 09:07:28 · answer #7 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its time to get a lawyer and get divorced...
2007-01-03 08:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋