Do you live your life 'planned' or 'planless',for the most part?

Question

I just made that word up--'planless'.I just mean without rigid ideas and constrictions.

Answer 1

Great question. I have just recovered from a heart attack in June so events just unfolded. I do believe in God so I prayed for help. I got it-the best of medical care.I made some friends on the heart ward who I'm still in contact with. Now the time has come to go back to work and a job has appeared out of the blue-a good one too. Hardly any effort on my part. But I digress. I am a recovering alcoholic who still attends a fellowship, so we do have a program to live by fortunately. These 12 steps are guides to progress. I will list them.
1/We admitted we were powerless over alcohol-that our lives had become unmanageable. 2/ Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. 3/ Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.. 4/Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. 5/Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. 6/Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. 7/Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.8/Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.9/Made direct amends to such people wherever possible except when to do so would injure them or others. 10/Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. 11/Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out. 12/Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

These aren't easy to practice. If I have a problem I can share it in a meeting or with another alcoholic. Saves seeing a psychiatrist/psychologist and you also get feedback from an alcoholic since we are all on a level playing field and no one can talk down to us from some imagined superior level. I get a lot of Truth in a meeting some of it painful. So I always feel in a lighter mood after going to a meeting especially if I have shared. This makes life easier to cope with. I am de-stressed so am more in control of my emotions and actions. All I can do really is to go to meetings, work and try and do the steps. I am content if I am earning enough to pay the bills.I don't have any wild ambitions for wealth. I have problems with sex and Ebay and a few others too. But if I try and live without harming anyone and helping people if possible(and try to keep my temper whilst driving) then that is be a beginning.

Answer 2

Planned I guess, with work etc. When I out we dont decide where to go. Just meet up somewhere and end up somewhere else

Answer 3

"Planless"!

Though to my great surprise I realised a few years ago that every major change in my life had been beneficial - almost as if it was planned! Go figure!

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Answer 4

A combination of both.. Structure is good in some areas of life and spontaneity is good in others.

Answer 5

well i can't live without planning anything at all , even if my plans doesn't work out , but that's the way i like living .....

Answer 6

defo planless, wished i had taken the time to plan things but i guess whats meant for you won`t pass you by lol

Answer 7

just breeze it, why not. no point causing extra neadache by planning and then the plans never work

Answer 8

I'm pretty spontaneous and hate routine

Answer 9

plan less its so much more interesting! spontaneity is the way forward!