I think that the saying "you can't love anyone else until you love yourself" is so cliche. I don't think it is true at all. I think it is very possible to love and respect someone even if you hate yourself. I believe that if you truly love someone, that you will do your best to make them happy. If you can hide it well, then the person you love won't be affected by your self-hate, or low opinion of yourself. Who agrees? I think too many people say the aforementioned phrase because it just sounds like the right thing to say.
2007-01-03 08:14:31 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
no, if you hate yourself - you can't love anyone, if you're going to hide your self-hatred it means you'll have to lie - and for that you'll hate yourself more
2007-01-03 08:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by Yulia 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi Sasha. Take some real 'time out' to get to know the real you. It sounds soooo cliche, but honestly girl never a true word spoken. How can you define or tell some one else what you do like or dislike if you don't know yourself? How can you explain to some one your own personal beliefs, morals or ethics that you stand by, if you don't know them or understand them yourself? What are you prepared to put into a relationship with a friend compared to a potential partner? What really makes you tick? What really ticks you off? If you are so sure of yourself and those that matter to you, trust me you will attract the right people into your life. Good luck!
2016-03-29 06:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Deborah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a funny old word and I think it's meaning can be interpreted in different ways.
I would say that whatever someone else goes through is an experience we could all go through. So my thought is, it's probably more important to put yourself in the position of others to try and understand what they're going through.
But you deserve as much love and happiness as anyone else. If other people should be loved, then so should you. Love yourself as much as you love others. Know who you are and what you want to do. Love and respect yourself and find happiness.
2007-01-03 08:56:57 · answer #3 · answered by Pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true if you don't love yourself you can't truly love someone else. Sure you can say you love them and you can even go thou the step's but you can't really love them. Of one thing your not really there with them your just there see if you hate yourself and the one your with says they think your the most wonderful person in the world and you argue because you don't think it's true that's not really respectful of them and their feels is it?
2007-01-03 08:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can't show love and respect to yourself then how can you show it to others. Why is it that you feel you don't deserve this love? A lot of times we try to control things in our outside world because we feel out of control on the inside, that's why a lot people treat others better than they treat themselves.
It is possible to show others love and not have it for yourself but it's not a healthy place to be. And why is it that you hate yourself?
The way you treat yourself is the way others will treat you. We teach people how to treat us. If you aren't finished on the inside then it will be easier for someone to tear you down.
If you don't fill that void inside yourself then you will always be seeking someone else to do that job. We can talk all we want, you are the one who can make the change. You choose to be where you are at right now.
2007-01-03 08:21:41 · answer #5 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think the saying means that you have to be happy. Someone else can't make you happy. Or maybe even satisfied. You can enjoy another person, they can be your friend, your lover, your spouse, but they can't make you happy. One the same hand you can't make them happy. Yes, you can have joyful moments, but to be truly content, you are responsible for your own happiness. If your not satisfied with yourself or your life, a relationship is doomed to failure.
2007-01-03 09:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by Fireant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I think it's true. It makes sense. If you don't love yourself, if you don't care about your own body and life, how can you possibly care about someone else?? The easiest person to love is yoursef and if you can't do the basic thing, then you can't try to move on to the harder part. It's hard to love someone as it is.
2007-01-03 08:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how and why this statement might draw major concern, but if you really think about it - we are all products of each other. The people that we love and respect have seeds that have been planted inside of them that our own spirit draws from. I honestly believe that you do have to have a quality of love for yourself in order to recognize that love in someone else. And because there are different types of love:Research suggests that there are four kinds of love: Liking involves intimacy in the absence of passion or decision/commitment; in this sense, liking does not include feelings towards casual acquaintances, but refers to friendships in which one feels closeness, bondedness and warmth toward the other.
Infatuation consists of passion without intimacy or decision/commitment.
Romantic love derives from a combination of intimacy and passion without commitment; or liking with the addition of physical arousal and attraction.
Companionate love involves intimacy and decision/commitment in which the passion, at least in the physical sense, has subsided (Adler et al., 2001, p. 222).
We have the capability within us to experience each one of these but we have to recognize it within us first - in order to realize it in another person.
2007-01-03 08:29:46 · answer #8 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say YES. I believe one would have to love one's self in order to truly love another. I don't love myself and as I've told my wife a zillion times, there's NO WAY I could love her properly as a result. But she insists that I love her so I stick around.
2007-01-03 08:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2007-01-03 08:18:12 · answer #10 · answered by Alex B 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋