I asked a close female friend that we need to lose contact for awhile(no time limit set)-so that I can get over my feelings for her.
She said that she don't deserve my feelings.
She also said “If thats how you feel sweetheart,ok and that maybe you do need time out”.She only wants to be friends.The conversation ended with an argument, with her calling me 2 faced and selfish.(asked her if she ever felt anything for me and for her to be truthful).Why would she call me this? We're close friends-we were never a couple.
We've not spoken for a month....tried to get in touch---she's not responded at all.
I just want to know WHAT I HAVE DONE?
Surely by me getting back in touch, she should recognise that I've delt with my feelings.
She said that we're only friends---could she have possibly fancied me and not told me?
What now?
2007-01-03 08:10:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't she ever fancied you, otherwise she would have taken the relationship further. She's probably hurt that you couldn't deal with being just friends with her and also you were a bit rude to her during your arguement. Give it more time, she will eventually get in touch.
2007-01-03 08:16:30 · answer #1 · answered by beanie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like this female friend as u call her had other thoughts of your relationship in her mind. She obviously liked you or had more feeling for you than what she lead on. By you wanting to cease contact with her hurt her in a way that made her feel as though you were selfish and not considering her feelings, but she never expressed her feelings so you can't be held accountable for someone elses unstable emotions. You have tried to contact her and she is dodging you so I would just back off. I'm sure she will come around in a bit, but I would be cautious with her it seems as she has some serious issues.
2007-01-03 16:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be anything that you have done, maybe she doesn't feel comfortable and able to respond to your contact because of what happened. Am in similar situation with my closest male mate at the moment; he wants a break from our friendship and I don't know what I have done to cause that but our last conversation was also a heated argument. That has caused me to feel uncomfortable about making any contact, so I speak from personal experience. Good luck.
2007-01-03 16:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Snowflake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she does actually like you. It is a possibilty and she may want to lose contact with you for the same reason you did. The best thing to do at the moment is wait a little longer, then try to catch her face-to-face and tell her you're hurt and ask her why she said those hurtful things. Good luck!
2007-01-03 16:16:36 · answer #4 · answered by angelfairy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your discription of the whole things coun't have been clearer. The line she doesn't deserve your feelings means she didn't fancy you. She doesn't get in touch because she doesn't feel like it. Now carry on torturing yourself thinking WHAT HAVE I DONE?! it won't make you feel better. For goodness sake listen to the learned,leave it alone and get on with your life. Why can't you forgive yourself that you are not what she wants?!
2007-01-03 17:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest leaving her a voicemail or talk to her if she answers and do a short explanation that you have dealt with issue at hand and hope that you and her can get together for coffee or a drink sometime to catch up.
Sound confident and make it your only communication. That way the ball is in her court.
2007-01-03 16:17:02 · answer #6 · answered by DEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I must say you were sooo wrong in saying what you did (it was more of your wording than actually getting your point across) .. .loose contact.. get over ur feelings for her... How else was she to respond.. something like this... ok sweetie, u can have all the time in the world..it doesn't matter that you just stomped all over me.. I'll get over it... you can do whatever you like and I'll be waiting... GET REAL... u hurt her feelings in more ways than one...I suggest that you go to her (don't call... go!!) and let her know whatever it is that you want her to know!
2007-01-03 16:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe she did feel something for you and the fact you said you wanted to get over her might have upset her. of course dont let her know you think this.
Send her card telling her your thinking of her
2007-01-03 16:14:31 · answer #8 · answered by CLAIRE S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could of a been that she was inlove with and now thinks that you want to be JUST FRIENDS. that will hurt a girl. BAD. you could of a just ruined a relationship, but maybe not. i truely hope that everything works out for you and her.
GOOD LUCK!!
2007-01-03 16:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by * Miss Thang * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is what has she done ? She probably feels like she is being punished because you like her and she doesn't like you back in the same way. Same thing has happened to me. They had to stop hanging out with me because I didn't like them like they liked me. So the question is, What has she done ?
2007-01-03 16:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋