staying with a friend temporarily. She said she would call when she was ready to talk...
Is it ok to send flowers after about a week, with no note or anything so as not to break the no talking rule?
I definitly shouldnt call or email at all right?
I was having her broken laptop fixed, she did call two days ago to get a status update (I sent a short email just saying it would be another week, it was a real no-nonsense email).
Is there anything else I should or shouldnt do?
2007-01-03 08:07:07 · 17 answers · asked by Tunasandwich 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yea I think that sending flowers and maybe a note that reads " I miss you" that way you aren't really talking, she is reading it :)
You are a good guy, I hope she comes back to you soon!
2007-01-03 08:10:57 · answer #1 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you could send flowers, and a note that tells her you still love her and want to be together... or send her a small room sized disco ball and tell her it's in her "court" now... Just tell her how you feel, and let her take the next step! If she still wants to be with you then she should be the one to let you know... When her laptop gets fixed, you could deliver it with roses, or whatever flowers you think she will like... By the way, now that the Christmas and New Year's Holidays are over... Valentines hearts and teddy bears are out everywhere... mushy cards, candy, & Love is all around..... Just check out your local Walmart or Kmart! If this doesn't work out, then be grateful it happened before the wedding and not afterwards... find a woman who will stay with you and love you no matter what! Good luck!
2007-01-03 16:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to ask for space after a fight is very immature if you ask me. I mean seriously! If your going to be married to someone and after every fight are you seriously going to ask for some space?? If your engaged and you had a fight you need to communicate with eachother about the problem at hand, not walk away or ignore it by giving space.
This is the craziest thing I have heard of, and you want to marry her? Come on! When someone tells you they need space usually that means there is some kind of second thought going on or even someone else.
Sorry to be so harsh as I don't know you at all but come on. Realtionships are about communication not giving the silent treatment. This is life not Highschool.
If you want to work it out call her otherwise give up on the realtionship and the silent treatment act.
2007-01-03 16:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send the flowers :) with an I love you note to touch base. See where it goes from there. You are to be married and in marriage there will be no talking or seeing each other for a week without a divorce on the horizon. So show her you still love her and see what you get in return. Good luck :)
2007-01-03 16:17:56 · answer #4 · answered by The Steele's 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
was the fight about something that she felt was worth fighting about? if it was over something dumb by your thinking it might not have been dumb to her. let her have the space but I would send her the flowers now with an apology and say instead of fighting lets dicuss it ok? maybe you both can come to an agreement to make you both happy that is what a marriage is all about a compromise not what one person wants only. only way I think a relationship will survive COMPROMISE a very big word to learn by. but try it it just might make your world together better. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-03 16:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by harleywildcat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shouldn't marry her? If she needs space and for you to leave her alone after a fight, how good will she be at resolving the inevitable disagreements that come up in a marriage?
I would reevaluate the whole relationship.
2007-01-03 16:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the flowers are a nice idea.
But keep the not no nonsense as well. Short and sweet. Like "Thinking of you" or "Miss you" or just "Love always, XXXX"
2007-01-03 16:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by DEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her like she no longer exists. Let her fix her own laptop. The more independent you can be - the better off you will be in the end. You need to be in control of your own destiny - not her.
2007-01-03 16:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by shadow_warrior_priest 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord, what did you fight about? I think she is being a little hard on you, of course I do not know what happened, maybe you did something awful.. if not, simply try talking to her.. You'll never work it out without talking, it's not possible. Good Luck
2007-01-03 16:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should dump her. She should be able to talk to you without kicking you out of the house. If your relationship is like this when you're engaged, what will it be like when you're married? Will she just stop talking to you for days at a time after an argument because she "needs space?"
2007-01-03 16:11:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋