how can i make my family be ok?

Question

i am 27 and never felt so low i have no friends a partner i dont love an no family that really cares about i have 3 kids i love but find it hard to get out ov bed because ov my life i dont work so have no way ov meetin people my mum thinks more ov her dogs than me my ex and i carnt get on even thou im happy he's meet some1 else help distressed mum

Answer 1

"Put one foot in front of the other...and soon you'll be walking out the door..."

Btw...I have no idea what the heck you are talking about...low, bed, dogs, ov, carnt,...just too damn confusing.

Answer 2

To make your family be ok, you've got to start making YOU ok. It sounds like you are very depressed and need help. Focus on that, first, and let the rest go. I've been there, my friend. My mom has said things like, "If I had it to do all over again, I'd have dogs and not kids," and she's serious. I haven't spoken to my parents in 9 years. I'm married, have two kids. Before I got professional help, I was a mess. I gained a ton of weight and had no friends, I didn't work outside the home, either, had just moved to a new town and didn't know anyone at all.

There is light at the end of the tunnel!! I found a therapist, joined a gym, I have friends now, I feel great. You can do it. You already know you want to, and that there's something wrong. You're halfway there. Email me (you can through my Yahoo Answers profile) if you want to chat.

Answer 3

Why have you got no friends. It's easy to meet friends. At work, over the internet, old school chums, etc. Why do you not love your partner, has he dont something bad. Write a list of your partner's good points & see how many they are. Focus on the good things. Sometimes people (your parents ) take family for granted. They probably do not realise that they are doing, they are making a mistake. They do not mean to neglect you. You have 3 kids, i bet they are all great kids. I have no children, but would love children. You have more in life than you realise. Focus on the good things that you have, like your partner & Kids. Try & make them happy & in turn, they will make you happy !!

Answer 4

Well the only way this is going to get better is if you change your own life. Think of your children if you can't do it for yourself at least have the heart and soul to do it for them. Otherwise you will drag your children down with you and i know you wouldn't want that to happen to your children. You also need to cut all ties off from your b/f because it sounds like that relationship is having its toll on you too and does he support you my guess is no. Wake up get yourself out to the doctors and av a good chat about ur worries. Be careful if ur prescribed anti-depressants as some can make u feel worse. Then you need to get urself out to some sort of mother and baby club if there young enough. If not go on some sort of course for yourself you need to get your life into perspective and set your children a good role model. Otherwise years down the line your gunna be stuck in the same situation as u are now with 3 depressed unhappy children. Think about wot it really is that you want out of life.

Answer 5

You're 27, the statement of 'my mum thinks more of her dogs' is a little childish.

You have your own responsibility- your 3 children who need you.

Your life is what you make it. And you'll get no where sitting about. You need to get up, and do something about why you're unhappy- not just for yourself, but for your children.

I'd start with your GP. Talk to them about how you're feeling. They may pescribe anti depressants, or maybe provide you with contact numbers for local support groups- which would get you to meet people.
Why not go down your local job centre. You could find a job that would fit in with your children. That'd get you out and meeting people.
But while ever you sit wallowing in it, you'll feel no better. Do your children go to any toddler groups/sports activities etc? kids are a great way to get talking to other mums etc. Dont isolate yourself

Answer 6

You need to start living your life for you and your children. You are hurting all of you by living this way. It may seem impossible now, but you can't live this way, not if you love your children. Force yourself to get out of bed everyday and go out and meet people.
Make it a goal to meet at least one new person a day, or of that's too much, then one person a week. Begin getting involded in groups within your community; church, social, civic, etc.
Build your own support system for yourself. If you live your life feeling sorry for yourself because of how other people have chosen to live their lives, then you are only hurting yourself even more! Get over the fact that everyone else isn't around-you don't need them anyway!
Force yourself to do this for you and your children. If not your children will begin to suffer because of the way you are feeling and acting, if they haven't already!

Answer 7

You sound as if you are going through depression. This could be due to situation and surroundings or it could be due to a physical cause. See your doctor for more help in determining the cause and suitable treatment whether it be counseling or medication or both.

It also sounds as if it might be time that you find yourself a job. This will get you out of the house, allow you to meet people and will also give you a feeling of self worth.

Don't give up hope. Keep trying and things WILL work out for you.

Answer 8

dont feel so low ,you are a mum so you are special....
go out and do some voluntary work maybe just a couple of hours a day, maybe handicap children ,you will soon see what joy they can give you and you to them.
then build up your confidence and then onto part time work .i know it must be difficult with three children ,but believe me they need you fit and well.
good luck

Answer 9

I think your very depressed,find a job,keep yourself
occupied,do something that you always wanted to do,dont stay at home feeling sorry for yourself,because the only one that is griefing is you!
Join a book club or something,that will keep you occupied.

Answer 10

If you are expecting all these people around you to fix your problems, it ain't gonna happen. No one is going to get you out of bed besides yourself. Laying in bed is not going to fix anything and will probably make it worse.

You CAN spend the rest of your life in bed, but you won't be very happy.