other than the "classic" signs...of cheating?

Question

what are something looking back now that should have tipped you off??? there are some things that are troubleing me, but i'm just worried that im being paranoid because of other problems...

Answer 1

busier work schedule
weird errands
best friend moving her computer into her bedroom and my ex needing to go over and fix it all the time.

Answer 2

1. The most common warning is when a partner tells you something is amiss and you don't believe it. He or she may say, 'This marriage isn't working,' or 'I am not happy.'
2. Sudden change -- or interest -- in appearance.
3. If your partner says, 'You need to see a psychiatrist,' 'You need help,' 'Get a job,' 'Lose weight,' or 'Go to the gym,' and is constantly critical, it's all part of the same theme -- which is that there is something wrong with you. Unconsciously, they are setting it up to say their partner was nuts and wouldn't even go for help. Another tip-off is when he or she starts picking fights about something you are good at, so you fight back and then he or she calls you argumentative.
4. Gives you guilt gifts.
5. If you get the cold shoulder at your spouse's company holiday party where everyone used to be friendly, it's a sign that his colleagues either know about the affair and figure you are on the way out, so why be nice? Or your partner has been making critical comments about you so they think you are no good.
6. When a partner is sneaking around a bit, it's a sign. Maybe he or she takes secret cell phone calls on the porch instead of using the phone by the bed, or maybe he is out on weeknights whereas he used to be home watching television. If you see that a person is not around that much and is gone on different nights, something may be up.
7. Sometimes people with a background of these types of things may be more likely to repeat them. There are exceptions and people can change patterns in their life, but if we are talking about red flags, history is a red flag.

Answer 3

If you find yourself thinking about the other problems in yuor relationship and then coming to the conclusion he is being unfaithful, then you are probably just paranoid. But if you have other reasons than the obvious then try something new instead of blowing up and going off on the deep end, set aside a surprise date, be nice and try to work on the other problems if you still feel the same after trying to change or if he is distant DO A LITTLE DETECTIVE WORK get your best girl friend and borrow a car he would know and follow him.

Answer 4

doesn't seem interested in u anymore
working out of town when they never did before
never spending time with u anymore
no communication
getting a cell phone when they never had one before
unhappy, and depressed
picking fights
looking back into the past, with regret and stating it to u
everyone else is important but not u
your needs go unmet
never on the same page with u no matter what its about
fault finding
name calling
tearing down your self worth constantly
his family looks at u differently and may treat u differently
u don't feel like a couple anymore
he goes outdoors or in another room to speak on the phone
strange disappearances
finds nothing about u of value never compliments u anymore

Answer 5

A change of cloths in his car
showers as soon as he gets home
changes plans if you decide at the last minute to attend
cleans his car before going out
intercepts credit card receipts or phone bills
well just a few things Iv heard of hope they help
Its a shame when the trust is gone it never really returns.

Answer 6

the 1st signs my ex was cheating were .... just in general acting disconnected to me and the kids. Usually if you suspect there is something wrong YOU ARE RIGHT. I ask if he met someone.. he would lie. I finally found a note he had wrote to her "that was my proof" cheaters can't hide it forever something will happen you'll get the answer someway. You can ask him all day in my experience you won't get a honest answer cheaters also lie.

Answer 7

Looking away while talking with you and avoiding eye contact. Changes in their usual routines. Obviously being secretive and sometimes distant. A lot of the times our gut instincts are the best gages but when they are telling us something is amiss in a relationship it should be discussed with that person in a mature and open minded environment.

Answer 8

Other than the classic for married couples:

-keeping things running VERY SMOOTHLY at home
-always insistent that everything is "fine"
-emotionless or distant. quiet. not sharing daily details
OR very physical ie. need to hold you close more than normal
-sex may seem odd at times-trying new, unusual things?
-when gone, always same "routine" (ie. taking care of car, working out, running errands)
-always comes home smelling clean or just showered
-never gone for very long periods of time
-never late home from work

if wife/husband mentions suspicions without PROOF:

-things seem to be even better than before at home
(he/she is waiting for you to "cool off")
-spends more time with spouse
-argumentative or getting upset when spouse pushes for truth
-maybe staying away from activities where he/she may meet the "other person"

modern day conveniences:
-alternate emails
-untraceable cell phones
-messenger
-pda's
-travel with work
-own car that you do not use

Signs for boyfriends:

-only sees you once in a while, you seem to have "your day" of the week
-cell phone "off" each night
-little stories do not add up
-does not spend holidays with you although he/she may call
-does not want you to spend the night at his place
-does not want you to just show up
etc , etc

Just a few of all the stuff I have witnessed!

Whatever you do...get PROOF before you confront him/her. If not yes, they may "end" it...but really? How long do you think that wil last...only until you "cool off".

Best wishes.

Answer 9

If you are having to anwser about everything and your partner doesn't then watch...If you are being accused of cheating that is usually to get the heat off themselves.And if it is enough to bother you in the least little bit trust your instincts....

Answer 10

Turned out not to be where he said he was. Didn't call when he said he would. Always changing plans at the last minute. Called you by another name or frequently said "baby" or "honey" to avoid saying any name. Took a lot of (or ignored a lot of ) phone calls when he was with you. Didn't go "out" a lot, rather just wanted to "hang" in.

Answer 11

- That he never had his cell phone turned on when I was around.
- That he casually mentioned how he told friends that I never check up on him or worry about names in his cell phone directory, etc....
- That the passenger side car seat in his car ("my seat") was always moved from where I'd left it.
- That there were drink cans/bottles left in the cup holder on the passenger side of his car.
- That he lied about little things for no obvious reason