that my cousin, who is beautiful, and whom I haven't associated in years, was rubbing her booty on him all New Years Eve? My thought is did you like it loser? or are you lying? By the way, her and I look alot alike and have been told that throughout life. NO, he did not think she was me. Do u think he thought I would be jealous? shall I ask her if it happened? Or let it go?
2007-01-03 07:45:52 · 34 answers · asked by LaRae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For one, he has continually judged everything about me and has even threatened to find a young beautiful girl to watch our kids because so many of htem find him irresistable. Yeah, maybe he does deserve respect...but most respect is given where it is earned. I was with him and never noticed anything and I drank water all night while he imbibed in hard whiskey and nasty comments.
2007-01-03 08:17:19 · update #1
Tell him some married men would of immediately put a stop to that out of love and respect for their wives. His lack of doing that doesn't say much about him. If he wants you to have trust issues with him, keep this up and you will.
2007-01-03 07:57:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I think:
#1: you have a husband who told you about your cousin's inappropriate behavior. That's the best possible thing, isn't it? The alternative is that he doesn't tell you about it, or even worse, doesn't tell you about it AND tries to pursue an affair.
Seriously, why would you even THINK "did you like it loser"? He is being honest with you about her behavior, trusting you to believe him, and he didn't cause it in the first place (and it sounds like he didn't encourage it once it started, either.)
#2: don't ask her; she'll deny it no matter what. Who are you going to trust, a cousin who may have hit on your husband and you haven't seen for years, or YOUR HUSBAND? Who was up front and honest with you about something he could easily have avoided telling you?
Your husband is better than you appear to deserve. Start giving the man a little more respect, eh?
2007-01-03 08:08:51 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there !!
I personally would have a heartfelt conversation with my husband, if i was in your shoes, and ask him why did this happen and how would he feel if you did the same to him, how would he react? Though I must confess his answer is bogus, because we do not really know how we will act util a situation arises, we might think we know what we are going to do , or how we are going to react, but no, a lot of factors take a big play in situation, to many variables, the persons mood, place, time, ect....
I would still let him know how you feel by his actions, and let him know that you will not put up with this again.
With your cousin, excuse me but her behaviour is not acceptable. She is just acting plainly sluty. Rub herself against your husband? I don;t think so. If she was drunk , people do lose their inhibitions, and act stupid.
I would let it go with her, just be more careful.
Where were you in all of this , for your hubby to allow her to rub herself, where was your family, or who was there? This seems a little crazy that if people who know you were there, they did not say anything to both parties, oh well, life is strange sometimes.
Love light and peace
2007-01-03 07:58:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it was honest of him to tell you so, but you reaction is what disturbed me. Why are you angry with him, he did nothing wrong but tell you what your cousin did. Why would you call your husband a loser for telling you this? Why would you assume he is lying? Yes, your reaction was one of a jealous wife.
No need to ask her if she did it or not, that would resolve nothing but you calling them both liars based on your response with your husband.
I believe your husband was just informing you of what happened, something husbands and wives do with his other. Let it go but the next time you all meet up together, just keep a watchful eye on your cousin and leave the jealousy at home.
Last, because of your reaction to this, I would say that you and your husband may be having difficulty in your relationship as far as trust issues.
Best of luck.
2007-01-03 07:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its your cousin who did not associate in years, what were you doing with her, on new years eve ?. I am sorry...perhaps, your husband knows that you have not been associated with her for years, and perhaps he may be lying. Lying or not, it is so difficult to accept a ''husband'' telling you that. Let us say, he was lying, for what purpose do you think he is lying ? Even if it was to make you jealous...either way, to make you jealous, or not, its been a negative statement. While I feel really bad, you must also consider a few things. Was your husband in touch with your cousin ? Did you have any part in the whole ''cousin re-union' part, where he claimed he..whatever ?? What about you and your husband, is your relationship okay ?
All said and done, lies or no lies, thats sort off...funny....i mean, donno how much related ur husband is to your cousin, but look, there is something else that caught my eye....which is ''''....by the way, her and i look alot alike, and have been told that throughout my life...'''...and ''no he did not think she was me''''....does mean that you have been pretty upset about the fact that you were compared to her very often in life...do you look like her ? Either way, let me tell u -
-either what he said did happen
-or he did think it was you...
-or he knows you have this 'i look lik eher and she looks like me, and took advantage of some sour situation...
-OR he loves you, and wants you to get over this ''i look like her, and she looks like me'' sort of thing..
how about talking to him ? tried that ? might help. if not, you may want to talk to your cousin, who hasnt been in touch with you for years, and suddenly reapeared on ur husbands back. Find out for yourself, on this little mystery, would you ??
2007-01-03 08:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it like this.
Another woman was rubbing herself all over your husband and HE told you, you didn't find out what happened from someone else.
He might have been trying to make your jealous, but most likely he wanted to let you know up front what happened so you wouldn't hear rumors later that might hurt your relationship.
2007-01-03 07:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Noner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably told you because it made him uncomfortable, and he didn't want you to hear it later from someone else. I think he was trying to show you respect by being honest. It doesn't sound like he was returning the affection (unless you left something out) so it sounds like you can trust him. I think we sometimes look to much into what guys say.
2007-01-03 07:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by Kristi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly hon, he's YOUR husband, so how approximately chatting with him approximately it???!! Like, locate out what's on his ideas. Jeez, make an effort, in spite of everything he's your husband and it is your marriage. a stable initiate could be getting off the laptop and passing a while with him, huh..... hint hint....
2016-10-06 09:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she could have only done it for so long without him cooperating. Obviously he is trying to get a rise out of you. Why? I don't know. Maybe true - probably there is SOME truth to it because he knows you'll probably ask her.
You had better figure this out. This is a big deal.
2007-01-03 07:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well was he interested or was he telling you for your own knowledge maybe he told you so if someone mentions it, you wont feel he was hiding it.
Confront her hear her side. He could have been a major part and putting on her so you would blame her and not him.
Good luck. Lots of what ifs to this scenario.
2007-01-03 07:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by troys_wifey2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋