My fiance told me that she was very confused & conflicted lately. I told her that if she was uncomfortable, we could break off the engemnt to provide for stress relief. Then if she still wntd to get married she could let me know & we could re-committ. She however continued with her "it's not going to work" line based citing her family's lack of spprt & wanted to bkup. I proposed that she take a month away from me & think through this before making a decision. She started therapy in the meantime, called me & told me that she had trust issues. An example of something that had caused her to distrust me was a dress I had given to her telling her it was especially for her but was originally bought for an acquaintance (I did lie). I sncrly aplgzd & sent her an email of all the things I felt I could have been more forthcoming about (no cheating). I did this so she could make an infrmd decision. She bkup soon after based on betrayed trust. Devastating. What do you see?
2007-01-03 07:45:37 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd move on. First off, she's damaged goods if she's in therapy. Second, if there is no family support, it can make a marriage incredibly difficult. Third, 'trust issues' are very difficult to over-come. I'd look at your situation as a learning experience and move on. Also, I'd take this to mean it was a sign that it wasn't meant to be. Good luck to you.
2007-01-03 08:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by [><] Rebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't think you should get back together, she clearly doesn't want to be with you for some reason or another. Once you break the trust, it is almost impossible to rebuild.
2007-01-03 15:57:53 · answer #2 · answered by xquis81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋