My engagement with my fiance is over as well as the relationship. She made the decision about that but with her words kinda made me feel that there is hope still as there is true love still. I am feeling lonely, angry, guilty, hurt (as I am sure she is) and feel inclined to write her an email saying that I respect her decision even though it is very very hard to accept. I want to say that I truly love her and am willing to work/talk through things (this didn't happen when she broke off with me) maybe after some time and the dust has settled being open to both yes or no answers and that she can contact me if she wishes otherwise I will let it go. Is this healthy, is this hope good, am I setting myself and her for other huge disappointments or am I being honest and giving her the option to reciprocate if she wants? Does she want to hear this? Tell me what you see.
2007-01-03 07:44:41 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I actually tend to disagree with the opinions so far...in that when you break up an engagement and relationship, often because you were so close and close to getting married, feelings are near and dear, so you don't want to hurt the other person too deeply, I say that is what you are viewing as 'hope'. It will take time to 'get over this' because, of course, you loved her. I think if the decision was made calmly and not through a fight or emotional something, I think that you need to move on. If she has a change of heart, she can come to you. It sounds like she is the one that broke it off...so she already knows that she hurt you and that you love her. Let her make the move...but don't hold your breath. See what you have learned from this relationship, don't beat yourself up, start healing, and just move on. Someone special is out there--waiting just for you. Good luck.
2007-01-03 08:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your heart says there's still hope, even the slightest little bit, i think you should tell her exactly how you feel, face to face. Don't plan what you say, just let it come from within. You have nothing to lose now, believe me, if its true love, she will come back to you, but if she doesn't, hang onto the hope of finding love again, because it does exist... I wish you all the happiness in the world...:)
2007-01-03 15:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Roberta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres always hope , you just have to be aware of what you might be getting yourself into , do you really want to go through this again?i do think it would be good for you to send her a email and see what she says to you , it sounds like you need to either have some closure and move on from her or work it out , just dont get strung along cuz that really hurts too
best of luck
2007-01-03 15:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by lildomenk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that its great idea, I would appreciate it if I was in that situation, I would suggest giving her some time limits though, like tell her that you would like to speak in about a month or so, that way you don't wait around forever!
2007-01-03 15:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋