Should i tell them?

Question

SHould i tell my parents i am bisexual? i dunno if i should .. they will prolly have a heart attack.... lol

Answer 1

It probably depends on your relationship with your parents and how secure you are in your sexuality. If you
1) have a good relationship with your parents,
2) tend to be open with them about who you are dating at any particular time, and
3) know they love you no matter what and will respect your choices;
then I think you can tell them anytime you want.

However, if you would just be telling them to shock them or if you are still playing the field and not serious about anybody, wait a little while until you have a chance to really think about how to tell them and why you are doing it.

Whether or not you decide to tell them now, you DEFINITELY need to tell them if you get in a steady or serious relationship with a same-sex partner. Having a closeted relationship would not be fair to your partner or your parents!

Answer 2

As a parent, I would be devastated if one of my children had "come out of the closet" so to speak. I would be dissapointed, sure. I would probably, at least in the beginning, be more than a little hurt and angered, sure. Would I get over it and still love and accept them? You bet I would!

I worked with a young man in California who was gay; his father had totally rejected him. He wan't even allowed to speak to his father when he went home. My friend was totally heartbroken, and all he ever wanted was love and some acknowlegment from his dad. I was actually able to be a surrogate father to him on some small level; he knew I wasn't judgmental and he knew that he could trust me and be himself around me.

I'm not going to get into that debate about choice vs environment or genetics or being born that way, but I do suspect that if my friend had had a loving and understanding father, he would have been a better role model for how to be a man. That father wasted a great opportunity. What a tragedy.

Answer 3

If can laugh at the pain you will cause them, it probably isn't time until you get some relationship therapy. For most of us telling family was more painful for us because we never wanted to hurt or disappoint our families. We love our family members and didn't tell them for a reaction. (ie - to cause a heart attack)

IF YOU ARE SERIOUS - you should ask your question is a different way and describe how you really feel about telling them. Many GLBT people here really care.

Answer 4

I don't know your parents but as a parent I would be disappointed in my daughter if she didn't tell me because I would love her & accept her no matter what & if she didn't know that than maybe I did something wrong, so I guess I'd be disappointed in myself & not her

Answer 5

I wouldn't bother. Would you tell them you were really interested in straight sex? Unless you are making a commitment to a same-sex partner and want to introduce her to the family, I really don't see how its any of their business.

Answer 6

Eventually, you will have to tell them or it will be a serious detriment to your mental health.

However I would reccomend an honest look at this list before you just stumble into coming out to them:

http://www.joekort.com/articles60.htm

Answer 7

How open are they to new ideas?
My parents are as conservative as they come, so I would never tell them.

Answer 8

why bother. its not there business. its ur life not theres. i didnt tell my parents and probably never will. some things are left better unsaid

Answer 9

Only if you're sure it's something you want them to know. I did at fifteen with no negative response. Your choice.

Answer 10

If you think you need their approval, or at least acceptance then you probably should. Don't feel obligated to if you don't want to though. Its your life.