How do I get partner to do the dishes??

Question

Without sounding like a typical whining bird! Or any of the house work for that matter! Something must be done!!

Answer 1

Get with a man who has the mental capacity to understand the meaning of 'shared responsibilities'

Answer 2

ouch!!!!!i just read all of these suggestions,and......LADIES,LADIES LADIES!!!!!. 1st theres no room in any relationship for spite.withholding anything be it sex, cooking, cleaning,etc. only builds resentmentand just wait there may be a time
when you want and he withholds and then more resentment. guys are dogs. when they work they do it hard , when they play they play hard, and when theyre home give em a beer, the remote and a sandwich and theyre happy. 2nd why not train them like a dog?work with them at first,it shows team work and your showing him how you want it done.like with a puppy at first give rewards for making minor goals example have fun with it as you finish the glasses and the dishes are soaking take off an article of clothin after the dishes before the pans another article,by the time your done you maybe naked but the dishes will be done and maybe the floor swept and the trash taken out. if you reward farther than that is up to you. next day find another fun way to show him how you want the living room cleaned. once you get him trained weening him or not is strictly up to you

Answer 3

I have found that buying a dish washer sorted out the problem!! Men LOVE gadgets and it is easier to train them to use - hee hee.
Failing that you can always try paper plates! This does leave the problem of saucepans etc. but a week of HIM paying for the take aways should be another step in the right direction! My dishwasher is a Bosch (not bi-ch or boy LOL)

Answer 4

Once I let the dishes pile up until there were non clean (okay I know that sounds nasty but it worked!!!!!!) then I washed one glass one cup and one plate on bowl placed in the pantry When I ate and drank I used my clean dishes he on the other hand had nothing. this went on for three days. I then through away all the dishes (Extreme I know but my guy is hard headed.) we had an argument about it once but he understood after that so now he uses paper dishes and he washes if I ask him to.

Answer 5

Take a leaf out of his book and just leave them to pile up as with all the washing / ironing etc. When he complains, remind him where the sink / washer / ironing board are and just say that two can play at his game.

If this doesn't work, maybe you need to cut your losses and leave him. If he's not pulling his weight now, he won't later in life. Get out before you become a permanent skivvy!

Answer 6

He, she, needs to be reminded that you are part of a team, you and them, and if you cook, then the cleans, etc., That is of course if you are both working!!! Or caring for children all day!
So that you can BOTH sit down of an evening and have some quality time. If that don't work, tell them slavery was abolished in the 18OOs. Don't whine, don't mutter, don't nag, tell him straight that you want him to play his part in the partnership!

Then beat him up monthly, but with love in your eyes, treat em mean keep em keen!!! (Nod nod wink wink)

Answer 7

This is what I recently did - had my husband pick a number 1 - 10. His number was even - so he does the dishes on the days that are even and I do them on the odd days. We agreed on that plan and decided there would be NO excuses from either one of us on not getting them done before we went to bed! That way we never have to discuss who is going to do them and I don't have to ask him or assume he even realizes they need washing!

Answer 8

Automation is the answer.
1- Get a dishwasher, if you don't have. It will make things easier for you, him and us.
2-You can, from time to time, use those paper plates and cups from the 99cent stores.
3- Enjoy eating outside. Lunch special at restaurants can be cheaper and better than home meals.

Answer 9

if you find something that works pleases let me know when my partner does do them the pots are always left to steep why he can't just clean them is beyond me.
I can be finished cleaning dishes then go back & his dirty plate will be sitting.
he also hates the gas cooker his excuse for not cooking scared of gas
the latest is the hoover annoys him I told him to get me wooden flooring or stop moaning

Answer 10

Get yourself a copy of 'men are from mars' and don't let him know you have read it. be patient - there is a lovely section in the book on just this topic. hang on in and i bet if you do what the book says you will have him doing amything you want in amatter of weeks.