Do I have some sort of anxiety or whats wrong with me?

Question

Few examples...When I'm walking down the street or just walking in a store I feel like everyone is looking at me and it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I also never answer my phone or call people because i'm scared I won't have anything to say or I'll say the wrong thing, I also dont want anyone to call and ask to hang out because I just like to be alone sometimes and I wouldnt know what to tell them. I also get very nervous when I go somewhere to hang out with someone i hardly know. I dont know if this is normal but I hate feeling like this. What can I do to help myself?

Answer 1

You do have anxiety. You need to see a therapist or counselor, especially if this causing other areas in your life to suffer (work, relationships, etc.)

You haven't stated how long you have had these feelings; or if they have remained the same, or gotten progressively worse. You also do not mention the physical (if any) symptoms that may be occuring with your anxitey (excessive sweating, excellerated heart beat, etc.). This is important. A physician may prescribe certain SSRI's (Selected Serotin Re-uptake Inhibitors) if this has been a problem from childhood. This coupled with counseling can help dramatically.

If this is a more recent problem, and is situational, without many physical symptoms, then they might suggest counseling only.

Many of the feelings you describe are quite natural--when they are not in the extreme. Talk with either your regular doctor, or a counselor/psychologist to diagnose what is CAUSING these feelings, and to determine what course of action may work best for you.

The other thing you can do to help yourself is to NOT be so hard on yourself. If you are a person who is quiet, shy, private--THAT'S OK!! MANY people do not like confronting unknown situations, or people. Look at this as a challenge to be the best YOU, take it slow, and be the person you need to be.

Understand yourself. Change what you can. Love the rest.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

It could be a disorder like those above said or it could be you need some confidence. When I was a teen I use to get worried that I wouldn't have anything to say on the phone & the other person would get bored w/ me. So to over come that, I wrote a list of things to talk about. I never had to use the list, but it gave me some security. Just remember a lot of people feel like you do, they might be just as insecure, so take a step & call someone to go to lunch. If it doesn't turn out try again, but it will probably go great. Maybe you just need some fun!!

Answer 3

This is just anxiety, nothing is wrong with you. Yes, this is normal, and I'm sorry you're feeling like this. I used to be exactly the same way, feeling like everyone's looking at me, etc. But when you're out in te street, don't think that. No one is looking at you, everyone is getting on with their own life, remember that.

Avoid hanging out with people you hardly know for now and only hang out with your close friends. When someone talks to you, just relax and think of something appropriate to say back. Don't worry, you'll soon get over this anxiety. If it bothers you a lot, I suggest you go and speak to a counsellor who may be able to help you. But don't worry about this, nothing is wrong with you.

Good luck, and I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 4

sounds like agoraphobia coupled with mild anxiety disorder. just take it a few steps at a time. if someone wants to hang out with you, invite one person to your home for an outside brunch. after that, have a couple more people over for pizza and a movie. before long, you will forget about the anxiety and fear and just have a good time. as for the people in the stores, so many of the employees and even other shoppers are so paranoid of shop lifters, that they watch EVERYONE. just ignore them, and get what you went in there after.

Answer 5

It does sound like social anxiety. Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to a counsellor, or therapist. This would be a safe place where you could talk about your feelings and they could give you small goals to accomplish to get more comfortable in public.

It's OK to want to be alone sometimes. Just remember that people don't necessarily pay as much attention to you as you think and they are mostly a lot less judgemental than you fear.

Answer 6

I think your problem is different from anxiety, I had your experiances when I was 18, after that I decided to be more sociable, I mean I didnt think about the result or whats gona happen to me,I just say or talk anything to anybody and didnt care what they think about me, now I feel much better, I have alot of freinds remeber to be sociable by make yourself communicate with others

Answer 7

Sounds like you might be experiencing some General Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Research it online and then talk with your doctor and a counselor about it. Anxiety disorder can really wreck havoc on a life. You don't get those days spent dealing with it back either. It can hamper your education, relationship and especially your life. Don't let it defeat you. It's easily treated and dealt with once you get proper attention for it.

Answer 8

I'm the same way!

I have been diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety and Social Anxiety.

I attend Cognitive Behavioural therapy. I used to be on SSRIs but hated them!

Answer 9

sounds like social anxiety. you might want to consider working with a therapist on this. it's perfectly normal to want time to yourself but this doesn't need to be a cause of anxiety and it most certainly doesn't need to stop you from fulfilling evreyday tasks, like shopping. I suggest looking at where this behavior comes from so you can intercept it. Best of luck to you!

Answer 10

Yes i am afraid that you are going through some anxiety ... i must suggest that you search for professional help...