How can he be a husband & father, go to work everyday, socialize with friends and live his life (on the outside) one way & be hiding who he really is on the inside? He is deceitful, living a lie. He is a porno-addict and he has been found out. How could he do this for 10 years? What is going on with this? How can he ever be trusted again? He is pathetic. What do you think?
2007-01-03 07:06:45 · 6 answers · asked by Forever 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You, who think 'porn' is ok are brain washed, deceived and just plain stupid! What if that were your mom, sister, daughter, friend abusing her body & soul for money? You need a serious 'heart' check if you think it's 'ok.' No wonder God is pissed off!
2007-01-03 08:05:42 · update #1
As for you, Ritz, grow up! In the midst of your ignorance lies deceit and pride! Someday when you mature, you might understand this topic or you may not....your shouts of everyone has a right to do as they please does nothing whatsoever for me or anyone else to solve a huge problem!!
2007-01-05 07:57:47 · update #2
Oh, & I am listening - I ALSO have a right to my opinion, guess in all your arrogance, you just forgot that. Go home I hear your Mommy calling you.
2007-01-05 08:01:10 · update #3
I think he is self-medicating for a deeper issue he is dealing with deep down. It's an addiction just like drugs or alcohol can be. He should get help..but only he can decide if he is ready to get help. You have the right to put your foot down and tell him he needs help. His actions takes energy away from your relationship. You both should go to counseling to deal with this issue and the trust issue too. I think there is hope if both of you are willing to work it through. Stand strong no matter what happens because it's a problem.
2007-01-03 07:22:38 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with men watching porn they do it all the time, that does not make liars or deceitful.. But you might wanna talk to him and let him know that you know what he does and let him know that it bothers you that he never told you. Maybe with you confronting him with it you might just find out why he watches it all the time. Hey it mightspark upypur marriage and sex life...
2007-01-03 15:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by NENA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A porn addict?
Wow... And I had thought this might actually be an important question.
Why is it that you people become so offended by pornography? (I don't mean just women either as there are plenty who enjoy it just as much as any man.) You give your spouse excuses why you don't want to sleep with them, but get jealous and spaz out when they turn to a non-relationship/non-cheating outlet for their sexual frustrations.
How about this, if you gave in and actually made an effort to please your husband in this aspect, maybe he wouldn't need to turn to porn in order to deal with pent up sexual energies. Or you could do one better and join him in watching it...
[Added as a reply to update:]
First of all, the people who use their bodies to entertain others have the right to do so. It is "their" body. If it was someone I was close to that decided to go into the porn industry, I'd have no issues with it. They are free to do whatever they feel they need to in order to be happy.
Secondly, who are you to pass judgement upon the actions and beliefs of another human being. I'm not religious and get sick of people using their religions as an excuse to judge others. It is the law of your God that: "None shall judge another, for that is solely the right of God." In doing so, you are commiting a sin against your own God and claiming to do so in his name.
And you wonder why your God is pi**ed?!
Everyone has the right to do whatever they wish with their bodies. And everyone has the right to partake of whatever forms of entertainment they wish to. Yes, there may be consequences (both real and spiritual), but each person has the right to choice their own path and deal with the consequences that their choices bring.
IF YOU AREN'T WILLING TO LISTEN TO THE ANSWERS, THEN DON'T ASK THE QUESTION.
2007-01-03 15:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lots of men like porn. That doesn't make them liars and deceitful. When it interfers with their lives, then it becomes a problem. Such as losing a job over it. If he just watches it in his leisure time, who cares?
2007-01-03 15:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you are right, he is pathetic and has a problem. He needs to see a Therapist. He has some very deep rooted issues.
2007-01-03 15:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe he could have done somthing really bad and needed to cover it up so leaded another life.
2007-01-03 15:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by hannah m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋