i dont blame him entirely. i know i had my part to play, but i`m stuck in the mindset of `how can i get the bastard back??` and `how can i make life bloody hard for him??` i know this attitude will destroy me, but i cant seem to help it. i now hav two kids to bring up on my own and he can swan about doin as he pleases. aaaaaaaaaaaargh!!!
2007-01-03 06:55:11 · 7 answers · asked by splee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You really don't want the bastard back. Really, you don't, it is just that you don't have anyone else. Revenge will get you no where either. Live your life to the best of your ability and you will find love again. The best way to get back at someone is to make your life so sweet. It shows that your life did not end when that person left and that you will go on.
2007-01-03 07:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time to cool down. Find a counselor to walk you through this difficult time. Keep your friends and family nearby and talk to them.
Revenge is not the answer. Sometimes doing what's least expected is the best way.
Try a book: Changes that Heal by Henry Cloud it helped me through my divorce and I'm a stronger person now.
you WILL be OK.
2007-01-03 06:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by CH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE SINGLE FOR AWHILE. get your head together, just date if you want to...this will give you time to have fun and clear your head. dont look for a husband but look for a good time for awhile you will be ok trust me...women have to learn that they can be by themselves if need be! the mindset is fine but what will hurt him the most is to see how fast you got over him and out with someone else on the town you noe! take the kids out and some man will appreciate you for you but appreciate yourself first!
2007-01-03 07:28:30 · answer #3 · answered by Melle Mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain girl.It sounds like you LOVE him and HATE him at the same time. YES it is very hurtful when you break up with someone you love and care about. I say you need to COMMUNICATE with him how you feel about the break up and that its not fair that YOU have two kids to raise on YOUR OWN. He NEEDS TO HELP too because they are his kids as well. Your going to have to push aside some of that hurt and anger in order to COMMUNICATE with him well. When you COMMUNICATE with him tell him that you still want to be with him MAYBE you two can WORK THINGS OUT, still you need to both discuss your parts of why/how you two broke up. What went wrong? Can it be fixed. Like I tell every couple who goes through hard times that marriage is NOT EASY ITS WORK. It involves sacrifice and compromise and one of the most important keys COMMUNICATION. Also that DIVORCE IS A LAST RESORT ALWAYS!!!! I wish you the best and hope you two can work things out.
2007-01-03 07:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband also left me.. I want him back. No children, though. It just happend a few days ago and he's angry..
actually, I came on this board to ask for help to get through today when I saw your message.. we are somewhat in a different situation, but just know that you are not alone... yet we are all alone
2007-01-03 07:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Centered 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are cheap whores.. since they don't get men in the long term they put out. Guys love an easy score..
2016-05-22 23:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by Delilah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A bottle of booze, a nice new vibrator, a valu-pack of batteries and whatever it takes to fuel your imagination.
Try and beat my wife's personal best which I believe is about 20 in a night.
2007-01-03 06:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋