What do I do if I am scared to grow up?

Question

I'm 19 years old, and I use to be the type of person that was never freaked out about the future. I went off to college when I graduated high school and when my family took me to move in, all we could do is cry. I moved back and I am going to a co0mmunity college, but now all I can think about is if i move out then I will be growing up and my parents will then be gone one day and I dont believe I can handle that. A part of me wants to live life to the fullest like i should but the other part of me is terrified and crying because she doesnt know what to do....help please!

Answer 1

First.....it´s a very good and mature thing you're doing...you actually give a damn about your future.

Look, 19 is a great age....but you just gotta accept that there will be some bumpy times ahead. These are called growing pains everyone must go through. The best thing you could do is just to learn from these events and move on. There will be lots of good times too! Focus on what it is you wanna do or study. Stay focused on that,...and even in a Community college you`ll begin to meet a lot of friends to party and pass the time with. Just make sure you balance both...studies and friends. This is the magical age of learning to balance everything. Also include family in the equation. Do your part as a family member, never give up, just keep going and going. If you need help, ask a friend, a counselor, someone you can trust. Keep your heart good just the way it is....and you´ll see how any event that comes your way will be challenging in a real positive way, a true opportunity for you to grow.

Well good luck....something tells me you´ll be just fine. Just follow your heart.

Answer 2

well, this may sound a little retarded comeing from a 15 year old like me, but i'm getting ready to face the same decision, so please dont disregard this answer because " I'm to young, I wouldnt understand." When you get there, look around, for one its college, the true window of oppertunity, where your dreams on what you want to accomplish in life come into play. And second, home is an abstract idea, what lets you say college cant be home is an unneccisary phobia. you got to stop and tell your self you can stand a couple years away, ( at the least, depending on what your heart is set on.), from your parents. Besides, whatever you become, there is no doubt in my mind that you cant find a nice job next to your parents, and then you can all live happily ever after. Best Regards, hope you make it to a nice college. :)

Answer 3

Are you an only child and have you been very sheltered and protected by your family? Growing up is a part of life and everyone has to face it at some point. It is just the way life is! You need to work hard on your emotional strength, because you are right, there will come a time when your parents will not be around. You have to learn to cope with life in a mature way. Not easy I know, but you really need to try hard and make a big effort to do so. Life is not always easy, but usually people do find ways to cope with what life throws at them.

Answer 4

Have fun while you are young. Don't push yourself to get old and grey. Don't rush it. When the time is right you will be an adult. Even though you are going to college doesn't mean anything except you are preparing for your future. Have fun while it lasts and don't rush yourself to settle down. Every experience you go through in your early life prepares you for things that are going to occur in your future. SO be young and dumb if you want. It will give you life lessons and futher prepare you for your life as a responsible adult. Stay the way you are and don't let others pressure you into being someone you aren't.
Just live life to the fullest. And don't mess up too bad.... don't go to jail or prison. Just be yourself and the rest will follow.
Do what you want for now.
You will be grown in due time! =0)
Best wishes. Good luck this year, and finding yourself....
♥
Stacy M.

Answer 5

Going to college and living on campus is a wonderful experience. You cannot let your fears hold you back. Yes, one day your parents will be gone, that is a fact of life. People leave us. Love your Parents and live life to it's fullest. What if in 20 years you look back and say, "Oh I wish I had...". You will never know unless you try and put one foot in front of the other. Take the courage to live YOUR life and quit trying to please those around you. You can have the best of both worlds. Just call your parents daily. See them on break and everything will be ok. They will be more proud of you for taking that leap into the world. Good luck!

Answer 6

Everyone fears growing up at some point in life. The thing is that you can't stop it from happening. It just happens.

You're 19 and you have the entire world before you. Furthermore, being 19 is still very much being a teenager and no one expects you to 'grow up' right now. Don't be too hard on yourself. Enjoy life-find something that interests you--find joy--and don't worry about things you can't control. You'll find as you 'grow up' that many of the grown ups are 'faking' at being grown up. They're just as scared as you are now; they've just learned to cope with uncertainties.

Answer 7

Join the club none of us want to grow old but the simple fact of the matter is that we at some point all have to. I had a similar thing happen to me at 23. I had been living and working on my own for a couple of years and I just realized 1 day that all the fun and games of being a teenager were over and I had responsibilities to uphold. That was a sad day. But you will eventually get over it and start stressing out over adult issues.

Answer 8

What do you do if you are scared to grow up??? You do it anyway! You know those people that sponge off their parents until they finally tic them off. Those people with no self respect that lie on the couch all day and watch TV. Those people that are not very interesting even to themselves because they have never LIVED their life? You don't want to be there do you? Baby, everyone is afraid to leave the nest. You do it anyway. There are lots of scary things in life, but you do them anyway. You will be fine. Just live! It beats the alternative!!!

Answer 9

I felt the same way when I was that age, and I grew out of it. It's just like being dizzy, if you just keep doing what you're doing, eventually it will pass. Just throw yourself into your life, friends, academics, sports, whatever, and just concentrate on enjoying each precious moment as it happens instead of worrying about the future. If you're 19, you still have plenty of youth left. Take lots of pictures and DO stuff. You don't want to look back in five years and realize that you wasted some of the most exciting years of your youth being fearful!

Answer 10

I don't think you'd much like the alternative to growing up.

It's the inevitability of life, and you're going to need to learn to accept it, see it as a challenge, and meet the challenge. Your parents have worked hard to get you to this point, but this point can't last forever, and you don't want all their work to have been wasted.

It's time to put on the "big girl panties" and meet the world. I think it's safe to say that your parents will do everything they can to not leave this life any sooner than they have to.