My twin sister and i are so close that we would die for each other
When we were 17 we went to our family doctor to get our tubes tied or something like that and we were rejected and than again 2 years ago when we were 20 and we were rejected again from 3 different doctors
Now my sister and i got accepted to a school that only accepts 25 students for its veterinarian program that it has and it is the hardest school to get into in Canada we both loves animals more than anything
my grandmother died when she gave birth to my mother and my mother almost dies giving birth to us that she was intensive care for 3 weeks and that most likely will happen to my sister and I
My sister is 4 weeks pregnant and i don't know what she is going to do but one thing i do know about females is that when they have a baby they change and that is scary to me if my sister has a baby than she will be an alien to me and i cry every day
2007-01-03 06:48:38 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
that the stupid doctors think they can turn us down and now are lives are ruined and I feel suicidal my sister is not married and this guy she is dating put a hole in the condom and now my sister could have a disease on top of being pregnant
We have had boyfriends that would try anything to trap us but the hole in the condom takes the cake
I can't tell my sister to have an abortion it has to be her choice
what should i say to her
She has being calling me for three days and i have been avoiding her because i don't want her to know how upset i sound but i am ready to talk to her and find out my fate
If she has an abortion than we will go to another country where they will sterilize us and this will never happen again
My sister is the most important person in my life and if she has this pregnancy and dies giving birth than I WILL HUNT THAT BOYFRIEND DOWN AND SLICE HIS THROAT
2007-01-03 06:49:28 · update #1
I have a twin brother and i feel for you please talk with your sister you need each other the most right now
2007-01-03 07:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Buda B 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Don't be so negative, this can end up a good thing! Lets look at the potential positives in this situation.
You and your sister have each other to lean on. You can help her. She's probably having a hard time dealing with this herself and probably needs you more than ever right now. Help her, be there for her! Don't leave her to fend for herself!
They have made major medical advances over the years since your mother and grandmother gave birth. And your sister might not be anything like your mother and grandmother in giving birth. Every woman is different! Every pregnancy is different.
You both can still go to school to be a vet.
You can help each other with everything.
Yes, she might change, but what makes you think it will be a negative change? How do you know it won't be a good change that will make you even closer and endear each of you to each other more so?
And you will have a little niece or nephew to spoil!!! This can be really fun! Spoiling him or her and buying him or her all kinds of cute clothes and toys and games. Take pictures. Play with him or her. Thank him or her places and watch his or her little antics and sparkling eyes and smiles when he sees you, his auntie....and many other things.
Hey, this can be a really good thing!!! A great event in your life!!!
2007-01-03 09:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by rugbee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl let me put it to you like this, a new life is a precious thing. What if your mother would have done what you want your sister to do when she was pregnant with the two of you? Your life wouldnt be. I lost my baby sis about nine years ago my heart feels that same aking pain of loosing her when I think about her. Now lets say your sis decides to keep the baby, because she feels its the only right thing to do. Then what? Are you go to kill yourself. The way I see it you have a few possibilities that can come of this situation. THE FIRST: She decides to keep the baby and survives, but if you dont think and react to quick and take your life you will scar your twin for life and also leave behind a precious baby that will never get the chance to know his/her aunt. SECOUND: your Twin does what you hope she will do and you two live happily ever after. And that can end as just a baby because depending on how much your sis likes babies and kids a move and decision like that can scar her for life. I misscaried first baby and i still hurt emotionaly because your sis has a choice to keep the baby or kill it and belive your best bet is too just support her with every choice she makes. THIRD: because of the history with pregnancy she may make it through this and there is a chance that maby just the baby will survive nobody knows until her choice is made and life does what it will. Lets just say only that baby makes such a sad occasions can even end up happy. I truly hope that if your sis chooses to keep the baby that they both will be fine and if not you have something greater than you that will see you through. Please dont take your life, you where blessed with it continue enjoying your blessing of life with your sis and what ever decision she makes. FROM THE MRS. My wife was so touched by your question that she was compelled to give you an answer. She has been through a lot when it comes to situations involving deaths with family. I hope that what ever is to come that you and your family come out of this one. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON, FIND THE POSITIVE IN ALL SITUATIONS.
2007-01-03 07:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Atimalala 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your attitude towards your sisters pregnancy is a very selfish one. Giving birth today is not like giving birth 20 years ago. They are so advanced and could detect a problem well in advance. Motherhood is one of the most amazing experiences any woman could go through and your sister will realise that when the baby is born. Stop thinking about yourself. All I read is I, I, I. What about your sister and how she feels instead of how you feel. Let her see a doctor and get tested for any STD's. Grow up. My son is married to an identical twin and they both have children and are also extremely close. So this comes from somebody who knows>
2007-01-03 06:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Vonnie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly in the medical profession you surely know that medicine has progressed a little since you were born and maybe a little more since your mother was born. Instead of going off the deep end you should be supporting your sister and trying to help her (not yourself) with her problem. Condoms are good for BC but if the both of you are trying not to get pregnant why aren't you on the pill? Double protection would have been a good option. Or why us his condom? It doesn't seem like she was to worried about getting pregnant or doing much to prevent it. She should go see a doctor about her (not your) options.
2007-01-03 16:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You show real concern for someone as close as a twin sister. You are right in being upset. But there are ways to go about the problem. First, it is not medically verifiable that your sister will change markedly just by giving birth to a baby. Your concern about her ability to give birth safely is more telling and real, since there is precedence in the family. Firstly, try to overcome your emotional reactions. Let her go for medical check up and access her chances at safe delivery - don't leave to chances! The result determines the next step.If she can deliver safely, let her. If not so, the rest is at her discretion. The issue of STD is best handled by medical assessment. Try also to know your sister's views about herself and the pregnacy! Finally, being positive about situations, however the odds is always the very best, as situations do not matter so much as how we view them. I feel for you!
2007-01-03 07:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Clarius U 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness girl! Come down, you are taking this way too hard. I don't know if its a family/culture thing or what, but the fact that your sister pregnant has absolutely nothing to do with you.
However, I do advice that your sister gets regular check ups from her docter because of your family history.
Whoa! The boyfriend put a hole in the condom? My goodness, I've heard of men doing this just to get a woman pregnant. Thats terrible, he is such a assh*&%! But you two still need to calm down and get a hold of yourselves .......
2007-01-03 06:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by rosie768 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your family has endured in the pasts but don't jump to any conclusions. Be happy for your sister and don't just think about yourself. If anything you and your sister will get closer, this will be your niece or nephew. Don't be inconsiderate of your sister's feelings. Being a mother is a wonderful things and your sister needs your help and not your criticism and selfishness.
2007-01-03 07:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by DaddysGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK....Sweety I think you have issues! Why not talk to your sister if you guys are that close she will understand. I dont understand why you feel the way you do. If she decides to keep this baby then you should try and be happy for her. But most importantly talk to her and see what is on her mind. She may be sooo scared right now and needing you more than anything!
2007-01-03 06:55:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You MUST learn how to be an independent person in your own right, no matter what, and you must allow the same for your sister. It's absolutely crucial. All of your concerns are very valid, and I know that twinship intensifies your feelings. But -- you cannot allow them to dominate your life or hers. Change is always going to be part of life. And fear of change is always going to be there too. You (both) may need some shortterm therapy to fortify yourselves in this regard.
If you and your sister have both tried to have your tubes tied, then obviously your sister has been thrown for a loop by this pregnancy also. She needs you NOW to listen, to sympathize, to be a sounding board. You need to share your worries now, but most of all, she needs your support. BUT --- you have NO RIGHT WHATSOEVER to hold her hostage to your fears and threats.
Oh, and my daughter wants me to try to persuade you as to how "absolutely fabulous" "auntiehood" is! Best of luck.
2007-01-03 07:18:58 · answer #10 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suicide is a long term solution to a short term problem,
DON'T DO IT
Please consider talking to a psychiatrist about your feelings and intense attachment towards your sister, you definitely have some issues to address
2007-01-03 06:57:44 · answer #11 · answered by Randy M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋