On New Years Eve I found out that my best friend of 15 years is 3 months pregnant. I found out thru my other best friends fiance' that slipped out while all hanging out that night. At first I was really excited, but then i became very upset. My best friend is on a cruise with her boyfriends family, so she has no clue that I know yet. SHe is also my Maid of honor in my wedding in 2008. My other best friend said she has been keeping this secret for 2 months and that my MOH has known since Halloween. Is it wrong to be this upset? I just dont understand why i was left in the dark? Can you give me advice on how to tell her when she gets back how sad i am that she could not come to me and tell? Thank you :(
2007-01-03 06:45:45 · 4 answers · asked by SO In LOVE 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yeah Its not about who the father is or being a unmarried mom, cause we always talk about this stuff. My other best friend has a child so the only reason i can think of is that friend has been there and done that, but befor she left for the cruise she told her whole family, and i talked to her and she once again said nothing. I have just been soo depressed cause i share everything with her. Even when i got engaged she was the 1st person I called to share it with. ?
2007-01-03 07:30:24 · update #1
I can relate to that pain. Having a best friend keep you in the dark , even though they really shouldn't. From my experience, my mother says that my childhood friend thinks, because i grew up as the 'good' girl, that i would've told her parents (church pastor & wife) about her private dating life and make her lose her ex-boyfriend. Out of all the years we've been friends, i thought she'd have known i would've respected her more than that. ;-(
But anyway, I would talk to her if i were you. Take her someplace, sit her down, and let her know what's up. Tell her how her decision's affected you. A good friend will listen and respect your feelings, no matter what the circumstances. Also, be a good friend to her too. She may be struggling with this problem too, and she may need you to comfort and support her. I hope things will work out for you in the end.
2007-01-03 07:29:56 · answer #1 · answered by Nicole M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your friend does not know that she left you out in telling you the news about her expecting, and was not sure how to tell you but, if she was any kind of a friend she would have told you like she told everyone else, When she comes back from her cruise then tell her you heard about the news through the grapevine so to speak and you want to know why she never told you, I am sure she will be willing to give you a reason and if she does not then something is terribly wrong.
2007-01-03 09:44:29 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there is more to the *secret* than you have heard. Do you know who the baby's father is? Or could your friend think that you would have issues with her being an unmarried mom? There could be many reasond why she chose not to tell you. I suggest you invite her to chat and ask her if the "rumor" you heard is true. See what she says and then respond accordingly.
2007-01-03 07:21:37 · answer #3 · answered by Gnometomes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well people can't always depend on their best friends, probably she was scared to tell you, and don't be sad it happens to everyone, just tell her that you heard she was pregnant, and no matter what happens you will always be there for her. It's ok to be upset, but all you can do for her is make her happy.
2007-01-03 08:22:50 · answer #4 · answered by Element 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋