Why does the love fade?

Question

When there are no quarrels, no arguements, no nothing. I don't even see it coming. Why? Why can he give up on our love? Seriously, there was nothing wrong with us. Nothing changed. I cannot see it. But he said that our relationship just became stagnant. Why. why why why. I dont understand. how can i get it back?

Answer 1

I guess after awhile, it's not so much that the love faded but the people involved changed. What they wanted, what they needed, where they wanted 2 b, all changed. Can u get it back? Who am I to say, but you definitely have 2 try. How hard and how long do u wait b4 u decide to "let go"? I wish I knew the answer to that, too. U can't let the (unanswered) question of "why" haunt you because there are endless possibilities as to "what went wrong." You're BF sounds like he's already made up his mind, so what u do from here on out is totally up 2 u, just understand that "repairing" a broken relationship takes 2. I know..... it's confusing. I know.... it hurts. Good luck 2 u

Answer 2

It sounds like you have fell into a rut where everything is known. So in order to change things up a bit try shaking the routine up a bit by building up the excitement that you had before. Do something that is new and different because if he is stating it became stagnant it is time to change it. So now the question is how...

Well start off by little notes that are very suggestive in his lunch or whisper in his ear get him to start thinking about things differently. Planning is the key, followup during the day by a suggestive call or email. Plan the evening so that you will not be disturb or better yet a surprise weekend getaway. Turn it on but be careful of the fragile male ego there is a fine line between nagging and suggesting make it seem like it is his idea. Surprise him try to think outside the box nothing should be the same old same old things that causes the ruts in relationships. Tell him what you want males love the hunt and want to know that he is pleasing you. Have fun and Good luck.

Answer 3

Perhaps that's the problem: no quarrels, no arguments, no nothing. Sounds boring. Put some spice in your life. Change your hairstyle, buy some hot bluejeans and wear them around the house. Give your husband a passionate kiss when he gets home. Go out dancing. Do something other than just go to work, come home, and go to work. Have a glass of wine after dinner. Wake the marriage up, girlfriend!

BTW: You say that nothing changed, but that's not true. Something changed for your husband. Perhaps you can discover what it is.

Answer 4

some people. or i should say most people feel the butterflies in their stomach and feel so happy and excited because they have a new crush. Some people miss that and when you are with someone for a while the so called srark aor flame is not there so much. Usually then they want that feeling back so bad that they are willing to seperate over it. A person like that is not a really good person to have a relationship with, at any time they could up and feel the same way again

Answer 5

I agree with CH, "love doesn't fade". Lust does, therein lies the problem. The first thing we usually notice about prespective mates is the physical. In our currrent society where the such a great importance put on looks we often enter relationship based on physical attraction and never nuture the emotional or friendship aspect. However, most long lasting healthy relationship are intensified friendships. So to answer your question you cacn't get it back it because it wasn't real.

Answer 6

Although you did not see it, "Change" is something that is inevitable. People change everyday, be it a wish, a thought, a dream or a goal, two people once in love must always have healthy communication ,never assuming what the other feels in order to grow closer to one another, rather than apart from each other throughout these individual changes.

Answer 7

relationships do change over time, and things like kids or money worries or work commitments will take thier toll. talk to him. ask him why he thinks things have become stagnant, and what changes he would like to happen within your relationship, that may revive his interest in things. if he seems unwilling or just indifferent to this, you may have to be brave and accept that its over. take a deep breath and do what is necessary to move on. it`s not the end of the world, although it may feel like it to you at the moment. you WILL get over this, and be happy again. good luck. x

Answer 8

Everything worth having including Love, needs to be tended to and cared for and worked at so that it has a chance to grow flourish
the two of you decide what you want out of the relationship then you work at achieving it Just rembember love like all emotions ebbs and flows knowing this can make it easier.
If he doesn't choose to work at his relationship you can't make him only person you control is yourself I wish you luck and love

Answer 9

things get boring yes but love going away that should not happen love is kinda always there i do not know the exact circumstances but this kind of abrupt action might have a woman behind it. does he talk differently to you, does it sound like it is someone else asking your questions? men will mimic another woman because they have been the ones they have been close to. check this out first if it is not another woman mayby some therepy for the two of you?

Answer 10

People change. There IS a reason, even if he doesn't realize it. Maybe you can try to talk it out and see what the problem is. If he doesn't even care to discuss it, you really need to accept it and go on with your life. You deserve better and you'll be fine.