Is it fate or should I let go?

Question

I am in a relationship now, although I'm not sure whether I am happy or not, I am just kind of neutral. I met someone 6 months ago who I fell for but let go of because of my relationship and children and I didn't want to be irresponsible. But I can't seem to stop thinking about him to this day and I just found out that he really cared about me and still talks about me, he let me go also because he didn't want to be the one to ruin my relationship, he wanted me to make my own choice without his intrusion. We where never physical, just talked alot, and I felt horrible for mentally cheating. I don't know what to do, because now I am wondering if I am wasting my time and my husbands time by staying in this. I just really don't want to ever hurt him, I would be more inclined to try to stick it out and work on it. I just don't know how to stop thinking about this other man.

Answer 1

It's an infatuation. Let it go.

Your husband is where your efforts should be focused. Flings are so much more appealing - no mortgages, screaming kids, busted water heaters or piles of dirty dishes.

You would be chasing a dream and you'd only catch it and realize it wasn't what you thought it was, and you ruined your family for it. Don't do it. PLEASE. Every day about 100 women post almost exactly the same question as you OR they post a new question about WHAT DO I DO NOW AFTER they left their family and realized their mistake.

Answer 2

If you have children and you're married, you made a commitment to your husband and a promise to your children. You can stop doing whatever you want if you make the decision to do so.

Answer 3

Whats wrong in your marriage that you would want another man? If it abuse, drugs, or alcohol then leave him.. but if its something you and your husband can work out, leave the other man alone

Answer 4

I thought that when you got marred it was for life,BOY AM I OLD FASHION , I HAVE BEEN MARRED TO THE SAME LADY FOR 30 YEARS