My children's father has six or more children with five different women. He has cared for none of them and denied all but three of them (my two and his former wife's) but he never goes to see his kids, he does not want photos of them etc... Do these types of men not realize that their children contain part of their soul? As such they deny and hate themselves. How can this happen?Why does this happen?
2007-01-03 06:39:33 · 15 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok.FYI I did not know he had other kids and he lied to me for three years. Typical for a male to blame the victim. It is like saying because a woman has a vagina she deserved to get raped. I belived him when he told me he loved me. So It is my fault for trusting someone? I DON"T THINK SO!!!!!!!
2007-01-03 07:11:16 · update #1
Ok.FYI I did not know he had other kids and he lied to me for three years. Typical for a male to blame the victim. It is like saying because a woman has a vagina she deserved to get raped. I belived him when he told me he loved me. So It is my fault for trusting someone? I DON"T THINK SO!!!!!!!
2007-01-03 07:11:21 · update #2
Lack of conscience.
Selfishness.
2007-01-03 06:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..there is the fact that if they are not interested in children then obviously they should stop having them. But on the flip side as awful as it is for the women and children to be denyed and abandoned, it probably is for the best. I highly doubt he has much to offer those he spends his time with and chances are all are probably better off without him as he would probably screw them up by being active participant in the kids lives. But , yes he needs to stop reproducing.
2007-01-03 14:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, nothing personal, but women who date a guy and know he has a kid problem like you mentioned, are part of the problem. The guy is after a booty call and has no respect for himself or others. You can attribute this to a very, bad upbringing. Then the women who know him and still contribute are at fault too. The guy who wants the booty call knows what to whisper in your ear and what you want to hear too. Guys like that are a menace to society. Unless they seek counseling, they are hopeless.
2007-01-03 14:45:11 · answer #3 · answered by Big C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know why it happens. My mother walked out on me when I was 11 years old, and I still cannot understand how she was able to just cut ties and walk away like I never existed. This will stay with me for the rest of my days and I don't think I will ever completely get over it. It is a shame really...
2007-01-03 14:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this can happen because women like you aloud.why would you think that a man that had kids with 5 different women would care for the women or for the kids?every time he has kids with somebody he runs away..so forget about try to raise your kids the better you can and find somebody that deserve you and your kids.
2007-01-03 14:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by realistic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with one of the above posts before me. Why do women keep having children with these type of men? get a clue.
2007-01-04 21:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by nothing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an even better question: Why do women keep having children with men who act this way?
2007-01-03 14:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because most men are dogs. same thing happened to me. they are broken people and will never abount to anything. save your kids and move on and protect them from his indifference. if they keep getting their hopes up, and then keep getting let down, they will have big time problems later on. Get DNA tests and make the bastard pay.
2007-01-03 14:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by elfkin, attention whore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have 2 children of my own that i love more than my own life. i also haven't seen my father in 20 years. there is no reason for a MAN to abandon his kid. it is selfish and irresponsible.
2007-01-03 14:46:04 · answer #9 · answered by jeremiahzvara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the women let him.
Women are attracted to 'bad men', but seem constantly amazed when they do bad things.
2007-01-03 14:42:18 · answer #10 · answered by ffordcash 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because the man probably feels you want to see him , and the other women as well , and he doesnt want to see you , and in turn is hurting the kids , go to court and get him to pay child support and see his kids
2007-01-03 14:41:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋