High IQ, 24 y/o, lazy. Astute friend insists its a lack of accountability.?

Question

I'm a 24 y/o, top 2-3% testing IQ range, lackluster life accomplishments, nothing to show, minor tics plagued social character.

So, to sum that up, I've had a scapegoat all my life (minor tics), and have had the potential on top of that to succeed. Yet I find myself continually stymied by a lack of drive, perhaps lack of character in certain aspects, and perhaps some sort of social phobia.

Anyway, whatever. I'm not overly concerned about it.. However, I am slated to join the Coast Guard in 3 months, and I am open to alternatives to that situation.

My car is a POS, I've little fluid financial freedom, and am either lazy or scared to work hard. I seek advice, input and constructive criticism..

Note: Work harder you lazy a*s is not considered as the forementioned constructive criticism, so save it. =D

Thanks!

Answer 1

WOW how blessed are you???

You get to choose whether to work for a living or not...

you know I dont think it is about you being lazy or scared or anything else.... I think it is simply because you spend too much time thinking..... my goodness you are in your 20s and you have the time to sit and think all this through??? omg....

if by minor tics you mean facial tics well BIG DEAL! so you have decided that you have used your tics as scapegoat...... or is it that some mentor of yours has decided this for you?? who knows...

you dot have a lack of drive, you have a deep desire to excuse yourself from aything that is a challenge and have decided to be one more useless intellectual.... honestly smart people are a dime a dozen.... give me one man with low IQ and a deep desire to live life to the max for any hundred darned intellectuals...

you might be slated to join the coast guard but you wont.... you will think yourself right out of that one... you will avoid it like every and any other challenge in life...

basically the only real answer anyone can give you is the one answer you are not prepared to hear.... "Get off your butt and LIVE"

Answer 2

Coast Guard? I think thatd be good for you, I mean no doubt it'll wake you up mentally and physically in terms of your "lazy" problem. But also the comradesmenship aspect of it too. It would probably be a great opportunity to meet new people and form new friendships. As for the drive, thats really something you got to find withen yourselves. A puprose to your life is yours alone and nobody can share or take that from you. I personally am a simple man. I live by 3 things:

Music
Movies and
Girls

Good luck to you my friend. I think your over-thinking this jibborish.....heres a tip, when you get to training or boot camp or whatever it is that they do their, find a **** or a brother that tokes the bob hope, and light up a bole. It solves so many problems

-laughs

Answer 3

interesting question, and I respect you for asking it as you have. I have two adult children (slightly younger than you)and a 9th grader with superior IQs who are doing little to nothing with their gifts. one dropped out of high school. my kids don't have social difficulties, but they definitely have no drive or ambition to "do something" with their lives at this point.
my oldest has tried college but didn't put in the required effort in classes he didn't like. he has worked consistently since high school, but is definitely stuck in the low income bracket, because he has no special skills. none of them has been pampered with monetary or material goods, because we don't have the means to give it to them. I think we did raise them to take responsibility for their actions, so that isn't it. I have been a high achieving student for several years now, so it isn't for lack of a role model or access to information.
so. my constructive suggestions are that you DO become more concerned about your lack of drive and direction, and that you do go with your plan to join the coast guard. the structure will likely do wonders for you, though you may detest it at first. I don't want to say you have character deficiencies, but if that's the case, a challenge that you can't escape from will help you grow up and learn about what your capable of, both inside and outside of yourself. on top of everything else, you are probably bored.
teachers always told me my kids were bored at school, but rarely was something done to rectify that situation. at this point it's up to you to make things happen for yourself, and not knowing where to begin is no excuse for not doing it. another really good suggestion I have is for you to consider some therapy in order to gain further self-insight. do you have tourette's? is there medication that might help with the tics? what about anxiety? what about attention deficit? (two of my children have that, without hyperactivity) what about depression? (it's much more than just being sad) if you haven't done so already, find out if there are issues behind your behavior that you aren't aware of that can be helped with treatment.
the fact that you're asking this question here is a great sign! clearly you know that you're wasting time as things stand. you can use your gifted intellect in ways that will make you happy and prosperous, whatever you decide you want, if you take some hard steps toward becoming an adult. I feel confident that your life will turn around in ways you can't imagine if you really take the risk and put yourself out there. and don't be afraid to fail, that fear can be paralyzing. remember: just because you're smarter than most people doesn't make you any less vulnerable to making mistakes. I would wish you the best of luck, but luck isn't what you need. instead, I wish you the best.

Answer 4

Are you really lazy, or have you just not found something that gets you up in the morning?

I share some of your attributes. My lifelong struggle is to overcome crappy programming from childhood that destroyed my self esteem and my ability to dream big dreams. I've had to fight inertia every step of the way to keep my thoughts inside the arena of what my true talents are, and the moments of satisfaction I get when I forget myself and am a contribution to others in ways that make a difference, and that I have the God-given talent to do well and easily.

Time is not money. Time is LIFE and it's better to spend it doing something you love and that God made you with the skills to do. Sometimes in our growth, a time of doing something we hate puts us painfully and clearly in touch with what we REALLY want.

Answer 5

It sounds like you think you DESERVE all the great things in life since you're sooooo smart (*snort*). I have a feeling that some sort of military service would be great for you and get you off your high horse and off your duff. It would probably also help with your social phobias... you have no choice but to confront them at that point.

Answer 6

First of all, Let go of mummys apron and daddy's wallet, Next get yourself a flat where you can do your own, ironing , washing, bed-making, cleaning, cooking, paying bills,etc. That will help you with your independence also give you more social skills and most importantly responsibilities.

Its time you moved on young lad.

Answer 7

You have a choice.. Gifted underachievers are among the most baffling creatures on the planet.. I was once as you are. I've found focus.

You have to find something that excites you and pursue it, it is that simple.

Answer 8

Joining the military may give you just the jump start you need. If you can't motivate yourself, they will do it for you and eventually you will catch on.

Answer 9

Superiority complex? Lose it! (You'll come to regret it...it'll make you oh so lonely)