and I am so worried about her growing up in todays world. For the parents who are raising teenagers at the mo, what advice can you give me to ensure she stays sane and hormones dont wreck her life too much?
2007-01-03 06:32:00 · 10 answers · asked by The Way 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
shelter her.
i know it sounds bad, but i dont mean seriously shelter her, i mean like always be there next to her wherever she goes (or make sure you always know where she is) make sure you know all of her friends. ect.ect.
thats what my parents are doing to me and i thank them all the time, i see the Brats that are todays teens, and i am happy that i have never once told my parents i hate them, i never once drank alcahol i never smoked (anything) and i choose not to, my parents actually handed a margarita to me on new years and told me it wsa ok to drink as long as they are around when i do it (i am 16 years old) but i told them no, my parents ahve informed me about the dangers that alcahol abuse can cause and i dont want to even have a sip of it (just incase i get hooked) and my mom smokes she tells me every day that she regrets doing it because it costs allot of money and she cant quit no matter how hard she tries, and she cries at the thought of her dying young.
i am very close to my family and love them very much, i am glad that my parents sheltered me the way they did.
2007-01-03 07:17:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay interested in her. Be sure to meet all her friends and do not choose her friends for her. You can delete the bad one who are dragging her down as she grows, but you cannot choose the friends she has at school. Keep the communication open and give real answers to her real questions, even the shocking ones. (Sample) My daughter asked me the other day if I ever had oral sex with her dad, I told her he is a very happily married man and let her build her own conclussions. Shocking question and personal? You THINK? But I did answer it and she felt as thought she could continue to talk to me about other things. SO, be there, be involved, tell her how great she is, help her with her homework and just love her to death even when you wanna just die of imbarrassing things they will do and say. Don't worry mom, things will work out (Most of the time)
Good Luck with those questions that will soon be coming your way.
2007-01-03 17:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'm not a parent, I'm a teenager, so maybe I'll be able to help here, my parents are way over protective. Today's world is a rough place for kids. We all know that. She should have some responsibility enough, to keep her busy when she gets older she'll know right from wrong. My parents always taught me right from wrong, and I had a chance to go to a unsupervised party with a friend, they were going to have Alcohol and cigarettes and that kind of thing. My find was really pressuring me to go. I told her I didn't want to go, I was afraid I'd get caught or raped or just get really drunk/high. I didn't go.
I have a cell phone, maybe you need to think about getting her one with a tracker on it, so you know where she is if something does happen. Mine doesn't have a tracker on it, but she doesn't need to know it has a tracker on it.
She needs to know you are in charge and not her. I push my parents past the limits, but I get punished for it. I can't say I'm rich and can do what ever I want to.
I think my parents are over protective, but I know they mean well for my safety. When she starts talking about going on dates and stuff, you need to let her know whats appropriate on a date, and that she can get hurt.
I hope I helped at least a little.
P.S It might help to get her into a sport or something she likes. Mine is Volleyball, they'll keep her out of trouble
2007-01-03 15:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont have the miracle answer.I have a 11 year old daughter and have the same fears for her.I also have a 13 year old son.All you can do really is try to keep the lines of communication open, pick your battles, dont sweat the little stuff, and lots of prayer.The main thing is talk to her.If you can keep her trusting you and talking, then thats half the battle I think.
2007-01-03 15:11:04 · answer #4 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 10 year old too. I have spent much time instilling good values into her and making sure she has VERY high self-worth. She knows that she is GREAT just the way she is and her friends can love her as she is or not be her friends.
In the end we must trust that we have taught them well and know that they will make good decisions when need be.
2007-01-03 15:18:49 · answer #5 · answered by swanser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well whatever happens is gonna happen there is no way to stop it all my friends and i (we are 12& up and we're normal...i'm 13)
2007-01-03 16:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by babynam2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her drink beer.
Let her have sex.
Let her smoke crack.
Let her have fun!
~**Heartless Hater**~
2007-01-03 18:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
itll eventually happen
2007-01-03 16:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by cheergal4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that shocks me my mom is a BI*CH Most of the time to me
2007-01-03 15:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by MissNOYB! 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
when you figure that one out, PLEASE let me know
2007-01-03 16:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by April B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋