my 43 year old mom is prego and my fiancee is expecting my child. my child will be born before my brother. so the uncle will be younger than the nephew LOL. My mom and my fiancee both needs me. I have to split my time between the 2 women. Because my mom is divorced and feels alone (she had a one night stand with someone and got knocked up) she puts guilt trips on me if I don't go over there and visit and takes care of her. I told her to call my sister but my sister and mom have issues. And I work 2 jobs and the 2 women are mentally and physically draining me. If I want to go relax and chill for awhile. My fiancee will put guilt trips on me saying that I don't love her as well.
Where do I go or what do I do if I want to relax?
2007-01-03 06:28:14 · 6 answers · asked by Pedro Xavier Ramirez 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If I go to a bar and either my fiancee or my mom calls and they hear noises and people. They probably gonna get suspicious.
2007-01-03 06:33:20 · update #1
Wow! Thats hard. Lets see. First off all you and your fiancee comes first. If this is physically draining you then you should relax. When the give you a guilt trip just don't let it get to you. I am sorry but they are not the first pregnant ladies in the world.
2007-01-03 06:41:38 · answer #1 · answered by Michiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! First off, I want to tilt my hat to you, sort of speak. Youare doing a tremendous job. It can be draining with one person preggo, but two, you have your hands full. You want a guilt free way to get your mom and fiancee to give you some time for yourself......Set them up to go have some "preggo time." Maybe suggest a luch date or a trip to get a pedicure on the feet they probably can't take care of. Maybe even go baby clothes shopping (I Use to love that). It's hard. But, all in all, you do after to look out for your fiancee first and foremost. Your mom will have to not always lean on you for support. Sorry, but that's my best suggestion without getting guilted. Hook them up, so you can get time for yourself too.
2007-01-03 06:41:49 · answer #2 · answered by sarah261981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to get herself some help aside from you. Your fiancee has help from her parents? Do your fiancee and your mom get along? I wish you the best of luck and try to get a night off. Tell them you have to work and go to a friends house and just chill for a couple hours. I know my husband has done it a couple times and I never got mad.
2007-01-03 06:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Renee B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you are supportive to both women, but it will kill you.
Your fiancee needs to be your priority. Your mom will be a single parent and cannot expect you to be the father of your brother. She must be very scared to be starting over as she is facing becoming a grandmother, but she needs to take care of herself.
2007-01-03 06:33:39 · answer #4 · answered by Raina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with them.....Tell them that you need some alone time. Tell them you'd like some space before the babies arrive. Honesty is the best policy.
2007-01-03 06:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by Babyface 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, a bar maybe???
2007-01-03 06:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by ruspecialenuf 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋