Here's my theory....Waaaay too man men stay in marriages that they are unhappy in. I think they do it because they don't want to lose whatever material things they deem to be important. As a result, men tend to carry on extramarital affairs, which is much more painful to a woman than losing anything material. If these guys have a prenuptual signed, aren't they more likely to end the marriage when it's time and not feel the need to protect their assest, thus hurting and scarring women in a sometimes irreversible way....I'd give up any financial rights, I'd leave with nothing, if my only other option was to stay and be cheated on...Wouldn't you women agree?
2007-01-03 06:26:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From a man's perspective, sure, this sounds like the ideal situation. But why would a woman who helped take care of her husband, raised their children, etc. just walk away without being properly compensated??? Granted she does not want to be cheated on, but didn't she help "create" the wealth that she and her husband shared?
2007-01-03 06:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a false dilemma here. I think a cheater is perfectly capable of divorcing you and screwing you over financially too, whether there was a pre-nup or not. Most women come out of a divorce much poorer than men, contrary to popular opinion. And if you have children in this marriage, you will need assets in order to carry on any life even remotely similar to the standard of living they had before. If you go with a prenup, think about it carefully. You may be a successful "career gal" now, but what if you took off 2-3 years after your kids were born, or cut back your hours? Even if you don't do that, it is very likely that you will not be chasing promotions like you once did, simply because you have too much to do at home, and you just can't put in more hours at the office without cheating the kids. All these things happen when a woman marries, and not enough young women think this through when faced with a prenup.
2007-01-03 14:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by silverside 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think men say in a marriage and still cheat because they're cowards. They want it all but don't want to make any sacrifices. They could very well file for a "no fault" divorce against their wife and get 50%! Just like a pre-nup would probably do!
More and more people out there can not be trusted to be able to hang on to a marriage for life. Therefore, I think pre-nups should be mandatory. This would take away each person's "intentions" of getting the pre-nup. That would mean that a wife and husband would have guaranteed rights to their pre-marriage belongings, without the guilt of having to make a statement "this marriage may not be forever".
I went through a divorce that I did not want to go through. I married a man and wanted to be married forever. Unfortunately, he chose to cheat on me (among other emotional abuse). I had no alternative to divorce him. You can not predict what the other is going to do. Yes, there is the idea that your marriage will last forever, but no matter how good of a person you are, you can not guarantee that it will.
2007-01-03 14:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by CH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read something recently that advised people to imagine what it would be like divorcing the person they planned to marry which I thought was an excellent idea. You may be right that a pre-nuptial agreement might encourage one of the partners to go ahead and terminate the marriage if the settlement provisions for a divorce had already been decided by a prenup. and they wanted to leave. It would be better for a married person to dissolve the marriage instead of engaging in deception, but this is the real world. People have affairs for all kinds of reasons.
2007-01-03 14:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Men cheat because they want it all. They want a woman to be at home to take care of them and they want a girl on the side to play with. I don't think a man worth marrying is concerned about his material possessions or money. In fact, if made to sign a pre-nup, I would reconsider the marriage at all.
2007-01-03 14:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by Dovie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 4 months and Im fitna git a post pre nupt by the end of the year. I like the way you think. Its straight to the point and realistic. I think if you thought any other way, for example got upset cuz yo husband wanted one, I think you would be on one. It could be cuz of the material ****. It sounds like if you were married you would be in it for the love. But yes, I am a married man and I agree wit a lot of your thoughts on that.
2007-01-03 14:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Atimalala 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a really good point.
Another is that men, having a prenup in place, would have the 'permission' (in their minds) to go ahead and cheat and not have to worry about being taken to the cleaners at the divorce settlement. Men who are going to cheat are going to cheat whether or not they have a prenup.
And not having to worry about losing their material assets is not going to make a man more devoted to his marriage. It is only going to save him in the divorce.
2007-01-03 14:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Agreed! But, I don't think that's the main reason why men cheat rather than leaving their wife. I think they enjoy the comfort of keeping their family while having the excitement of the affair. But, I'd rather loose everything material than have my husband cheat on me.
2007-01-03 14:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with pre-nupts, and not just for women, I think women who are more financially stable than their future husbands should have one drawn up too.
2007-01-03 14:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by Double 709 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. A marriage is supposed to be a committment for life. Only cowards go running to have affairs when the marriage isn't going exactly like they think it should.
2007-01-03 14:29:23 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋