Whenever I want to talk about how I'm feeling..hormanal, fat, cravings, bigger breasts, etc. my hubby rolls his eyes or changes the subject. When I ask him why he says "I'm a guy we don't like talking about that kinda stuff" He does not seem that interested going to appoitments with me or talking about baby names. What's up?
2007-01-03 06:24:11 · 18 answers · asked by mrs michelle 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My husband kind of acted the same way in the beginning. I think the whole thing is just soooo foreign to men because it is not physically happening to them. He started getting more interested when the baby started moving and I began to show. I'm not sure how far along you are, but today, I had my 20 week ultrasound and it was amazing! My husband was sooooooooooo excited and hasn't stopped talking about our little girl! Before, he avoided the subject at all cost! See, there's hope for everyone! Good Luck!
2007-01-03 06:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately your husband is a little incensative of what and how you are feeling. He shouldn't be acting that way at all. That is not right. He helped get you pregnant, he should be there for all the aches and pains and concerns. Keep at him let him know that he helped make the baby too and that he needs to get more involved especially when you go to the doctor's for an appointment. I really mean keep on him cause if you don't and when the baby is hear guess who will be doing all the baby things????????? If he can help make a baby, he can help with everything else. My ex was that way in the beginning and I got right on him with that. Once the baby was born, I specifically made sure he knew how to change a diaper, feed the baby, everything. Dont' let him get away with not doing anything honey, taking care of a newborn baby is very exhausting especially for the mom cause your body needs the rest from labor. Good luck to you.
2007-01-03 07:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible for you! My best guess (because I've never heard of something like this before) is that he's not well informed about what happens during pregnancy and so to him, if it makes no sense, it's not interesting to talk about. He really should be going to your appointments with you. Also, your hospital may have some classes (if not your hospital, then possibly a local community education) for soon-to-be fathers where he can be with a bunch of guys and learn these things and maybe it will help him to see the interest that other husbands and boyfriends are taking in fatherhood. Maybe he'll understand that guys DO like talking about that when it involves their wife and child. Let's hope!
Lots of luck to you and congratulations on the baby!
2007-01-03 06:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To put it simply, he is an immature idiot. Fatherhood starts now. I remember when I was pregnant, I went to a Dr. appt. by myself. "Daddy" was just getting off of third shift and was tired, so I told him he didn't have to go. So, I left without him. When I came out of the Dr.'s office, he was in the waiting room. He said, "After you left, I got to thinking, What kind of father will I be if I can't even start out by making it to these doctor appointments"
But it was still hard sometimes to get him to talk about stuff. Cut him some slack if you are complaining every day, three times a day. And coming up with names is hard and sometimes overwhelming. We didn't pick a name until a week before our son was due.
But if he won't talk to you all all about it, if he doesn't share his thoughts, concerns, fears, etc. There may be other problems in the marriage.
If he talks to the baby through your belly, likes to feel the baby kick, and stuff like that, you are probably fine...
2007-01-03 06:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound crazy and/or unrelated to you at first, but hear me out.
You and your husband have contracepted (I'm right, arn't I?). Because of this, he feels this disconnection with your body and its cycles that he would not otherwise have had. Rather than seeing his role in your pregnancy as being active, he sees it as an onlooker would watch a football game from the sidelines.
Natural Family Planning (NFP) is a method of birth regulation that calls for the cooperation of both the husband and wife. The husband helps the wife take her temperature daily, and together they track the her body's symptoms. Based on her cervical mucus and her basal body temperature (temperature while she is sleeping), the couple can time pregnancy to achieve or avoid pregnancy. It is 99% effective at avoiding pregnancy after the couple is taught this by an intstructor (see www.ccli.org for a local instructor). My husband and I practice NFP and he is VERY comfortable talking about my body's changes with me. With NFP, one has to be, you know?
I'll keep you both (and your little one) in my prayers! God bless!
2007-01-03 06:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely not a "guy thing". My boyfriend was just as much into my pregnancy as I was. He may change his feelings when you get further along. If not, then I don't know what to tell you. I can't imagine going through all those changes without having my man there to sympathize.
2007-01-03 06:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you talk about having children before you were married? Does he want children?? I think maybe you should sit down and talk about how he feels about becoming a father. He could just be nervous about your upcoming parenthood. Either way, you should be mature enough to have a sit down conversation with him about your feelings. Good Luck.
2007-01-03 06:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by wldntulike_2know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, that is terrible that your hubby doesn't want to be involved with your pregnancy and I am sorry to hear that. No offense but it sounds to me that your husband is a realy jerkoff for not wanting to be involved in something that is soo very precious and pretty much amazing.
You can try telling him that he is hurting your feelings and no all men are like him. My husband is very involved and goes to all our appts together .
I hope things get better with you and him throughout your pregnancy because it is his loss not to want to be invovled in his childs life.
2007-01-03 06:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because your as big as a house, and about to push something the size of a watermelon out of something the size of a lemon slice. Your going to poop all over the place and your vagina will rip and tear as the baby forces it's way out of you. Why would anyone want to talk about that.
2007-01-03 06:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it is about you and not him. guys usually don't like the details of pregnancy because they aren't physically going through it.
Plus it sounds like you are doing a bit more complaining than discussing your body changes.
Some guys think pregnancy makes women sexy, but not all do--getting fat and being hormonal isn't fun for the guy!
Cheers!
2007-01-03 06:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by deepseaofblankets 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋