I am 30, divorced, no kids, good looking, and wondering if I am still a possibility for a woman to consider.
2007-01-03 06:17:45 · 29 answers · asked by Steve 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-01-03 06:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by chillie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. These days there are so many divorced people around that if I decided I didn't want to date divorced people it would really narrow the dating pool. (By the way, I'm single and about your age, so I think that I'm probably the kind of person you want answering this question.)
To be frank, divorce is a concern, because I have to wonder what made it so that the first marriage didn't work out. If those factors are still going on, then it could mean that my relationship with the guy might not work out either. But that's not always the case; for example, I went out with a guy whose wife was on drugs and he didn't even know, and they ended up divorced. I had no problem dating him because it was obvious that he had very little part in the situation that caused the divorce.
So, I guess what I'm trying to say is that I would judge each situation individually. If we were on a date I would look for the same warning signs that I'd look for in any guy. But divorce definitely wouldn't prevent me from going on one or two dates with any guy.
And, by the way, I'm very sorry that things didn't work out for you and I wish you and your ex a lot of happiness in the future.
2007-01-03 06:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thinks divorced guys are the best to go out with. I am 29 and divorced myself so I figure if I can find a man who is divorced he will have a better understanding of marriage and commitment and the chances of the second marriage working when the first one didn't is higher because you dont make the same mistakes twice. I am back in the dating scene now and have found that the divorced guys are more respectful and the single never married guys are still a little cocky and arrogant. No offense to you single never married guys. I'm sure there are some good ones left I just haven't found them!
2007-01-03 07:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by luv2btan1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Insecurity is a redflag.. Divorce frees you to enjoy being single again. My wife and I separated and divorced then remarried after a couple years of separation, we have two kids and my primary reason for patching things up were the kids. But had the kids not been in the picture I'd not have considered looking back.. I had more gratuitous sex in that period then I did the entire 13 yrs of marriage.
2007-01-03 06:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends, if the guy was a push over in the divorce terms then he may be considered a good candidate for marriage and to be ripped off in a second/third divorce. However if the divorce left him so bankrupt so he can never recover financially he would be considered negatvely.
2007-01-03 06:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by victorschool1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first I'd want to know what happened.( If cheating killed the relationship, I'd want to find out a little more about that before dating you!) Then I would do a "is there a chip on the shoulder, and what baggage is included" check. lol!
Also check on if there are romantic feelings for the ex., how much time since said breakup (because if I'm the re-bound relationship, that is something I would want to know ahead of time.)
No adolescent kids is veerry good!
So, as long as your old relationship is really over, I'd say you are probably not going to have any problems finding women to date. I think as long as what went wrong in the first marriage is resolved, and personal issues/ demons delt with, and oh yeah, he is attractive to me and we are well matched, then ya, I might even ask you out!!
Blessings- dd
2007-01-03 06:34:28 · answer #6 · answered by dedum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would probably be viewed upon as strongly considerable.
How would YOU consider a divorced good looking gal of 30 without OR with children? Therein lies the hard question... ;)
2007-01-03 06:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a divorced Man who has custody of his children, I can say that lots of woman give me credit for raising my children by myself, but as for being divorced I think that some women shy away because they think to themselves there must be something wrong with him or he would be still married or at least be with someone already. Thats just my opinion !
2007-01-03 06:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by madman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorced guys are just guys that have been married before. I wonder less about divorced guys, than guys over 30 who have never been married.
2007-01-03 06:21:53 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG of course you defiantly are.......Just because you are divorced does not mean your life is over. You are YOUNG and you have a lot to offer some one. Sadly half this world has been married and divorced you are now one of the statistics. Trust me when I say that you are very desirable! Silly boy.
2007-01-03 06:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorced guy,? single is single wether you have a kids or not, and you are on the market for better relationship.Lots of women would consider you a good prospect. By the way, WHAT'S YOUR NUMBER???
2007-01-03 06:30:28 · answer #11 · answered by Vannili 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋