my daughter has done a complete turn around because of the dirvorce that she filed for.?

Question

her and her husband still live under the same roof until the house sells.it is disastourous.she says that she doesnt like it there so she is out at all hours of the night.the problem is,she has kids who need her .she has since this ordeal stopped caring about family,I think its because they see what shes doing as wrong.as her mother,its breaking my heart.Im at the point where I am contemplating therapy just so I can learn to deal with her behavior or atleast understand it.I dont want our relationship to end in the toliet nor do I want to see her kids hurt.everyhting she is doing is out of character for her.everytime i talk to her about her going out or about the kids needing her,she blocks me out and says that they are fine.i need help to understand

Answer 1

Sometimes when people have been trapped in an unhappy marriage for a while they tend to go crazy when they can finally be free, children or not. I have had two friends go through the same thing. Its ok for a little bit, but then sit her down and remind her how this is affecting the children, use specific examples and let her know the consequences of her actions, i.e. losing custody to her ex, her children emotional well being. Then let her know that you love her no matter what she does, but under no circumstances should you babysit while she does this or enable her in anyway. If you are in the position to help her finacially to get going on her own then do, or maybe her and your grandchildren can stay with you for a while until the house sells. Otherwise I would just let her know your unconditional love, but keep trying to have talks with her about her behavior and how it affects her children.

Answer 2

Well it sounds like your daughter is having more problems than the marital kind.Theres some reason why she has changed personalities so quickly and so drastically.Unfortunately there isnt alot you can do until she is ready to fess up about things.Just do what you have to to get you through it, and try and maybe help the kids.If there is a decent relationship between you and her future ex, you might get some clues from him, about why things are the way they are. Good luck to you.