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2007-01-03 06:17:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I know MANY people who are seventeen and don't have boyfriends. Like my friend, who is still in H.S. She doesn't want one, because she was just raised with a few cousins that had boyfriends, and ended up getting pregnant. So she held off on the note that she didn't want to get herself into unnecessary dilemmas. Though she lives in a household where sex and boyfriends are often spoken about comfortably among family members, she chose not to have a boyfriend, because of her own ideals, and not because many other people, including me, had boyfriends.
In fact, I know people who are 25 and have never had a single boyfriend in their lives.
These particular people were committed to working things out in their lives first, like school, their families, and just enjoying a single life. They also told me that the right guy hadn't come along yet, even though a lot of cute guys had crushes on them in both H.S. and college. One girl had a problem with commitment, and didn't want to get a boyfriend because she knew she'd be a burden to him, as well as herself. Another girl told me she wanted her boyfriend to get along with all her family members...if he didn't, then it was a goodbye.
Having a relationship, especially a good relationship, takes some work, and if you don't have patience or commitment, things can turn bad, and even ugly.
Don't be pressured to have a boyfriend. If you hurry into having a boyfriend before you're prepared, both mentally and physically, the results can be bothersome.
Having a boyfriend may also increase your knowledge of the opposite sex, and teach you many things about guys. You may find that they work at a different level of understanding, and that some guys may be total jerks, some may be nice, but uncommitted, and that some are nice on the outside, but have a mean streak once they are comfortable with you, like mine did....he tends to be selfish and overly possessive, and got angry with me when I got a lip piercing.
That was also how I found out he was shallow, and that he only liked me for my 'angelic face,' even after I dated him for three and a half years. So you see, now I feel like I just wasted a lot of time on him and his so-called 'needs'. He acted needy, yet he asked too much of me too early, and now I feel obligated to him.
Never become obligated to anyone, don't make promises, and don't rush into things...like I did.
There is no right guy. Each one has their flaws, but it's the verbal communication between the two of you that sorts out all the differences.
Some people don't like the work that comes with having a boyfriend or girlfriend, and that's one of the many reasons guys and girls may get dumped. They can even get dumped because they made a change...like a body piercing or a weight gain or a weight loss, and changes in lifestyle.
Oh well.....
The bottom line is this....don't feel uncomfortable that everyone else seems to have a boyfriend except you.
I wish I was single right now myself....Boyfriends are a lot of work for me, and I have to draw a line between school and the relationship.
Men can be the biggest babies on Earth. They may act tough with their friends, but when they're in your arms, they will whine and whimper, and cling to you. I know this because I have a boyfriend like that.
2007-01-03 07:08:50 · answer #1 · answered by JILL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't really know if its the norm to not have a boyfriend at 17. But not having one at that age is no biggie. I didnt have one at 17. Come to think of it..I am 21 going on 22 and have never had one. Hmm...will i ever?? Anyways just enjoy your youth..and just keep in mind that what is for you will be yours.
2007-01-03 06:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 17 and I don't have a boyfriend. Lots of people don't at 17, and have never had one. 17 is still young, and a lot of the boys that can legally date us are pretty immature. I am content to wait until I find a mature guy with goals rather than settling.
2007-01-03 07:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Breein 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Don't worry too much about having a significant other. They will come in time. First off you should be concerned about your happiness and doing things you enjoy. You'd be surprised, when your not looking for a significant other somebody really special could come along. Don't be too concerned about having somebody just because everybody else does, because in doing that you could make a really bad decision and date somebody really horrible. I never had a boyfriend until I was 19, and I always thought something was wrong with me. Once I came to college I was getting asked out all the time by guys and still do. Guys gravitate towards women who are happy with themselves. Don't get too upset about not having a boyfriend, one will come along don't worry. :)
2007-01-03 06:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by iowabballgrl20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 17 and I don't have a boyfriend either. I think I can understand where your coming from because you might see all your other friends with guys and feel like a weirdo for no having one. A guy will come sooner of later and will like you for you. Don't rush it and enjoy the time you have being single.
2007-01-03 08:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Abiku 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is normal for people that find a life experience..
They were nothing to worried about finding the right person to be your boyfriend unless you have a problem to deal with a boy..
Just concentrate what you find more important than boyfriend like family and studying, you should enjoy your life..
2007-01-03 06:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't it be normal I'm 27 and I don't have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. By choice at the moment I'm still waiting for the right person to come along I'm not willing to settle for just anyone and neither should you!!
2007-01-03 06:30:41 · answer #7 · answered by Broken hearted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question about the norm is a total non-issue.
The question is, are you happy with your life as it is?
Lovers, men or women or both as your personal orientation dictates, will be there for you when you are ready to receive them and the Universe is ready to give them to you.
In the meantime, work on yourself.
2007-01-03 07:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by snowbaal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy your life, believe me the boyfriend girlfriend thing is great but missing out on life because of a relationship at an early age isn't! travel and see the world, go to college, try new things!
2007-01-03 06:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by mudd_grip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean by a boyfriend and where you're from. Casual or intimate? In the U.S. dating begins in pre-school and by 17, have five children and three ex-boyfriends.
2007-01-03 06:25:48 · answer #10 · answered by charmaine f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋