If you know that the baby has a clean diaper, is not sick, is full, feels fine, etc. but you are trying to get them on a schedule how long do you let them cry. I just put my daughter down for her first nap by herself and she has been crying for about 10 minutes. I know she is fine it's just she is so used to us holding her all of the time. No personal attacks please. Just looking for good info.
2007-01-03 06:14:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Don’t let her cry for that long, she is still too young and it could lead to her feeling insecure. Swaddle her and use some comfort techniques that you have to calm her down. Put a toy in her crib, play a mobile, give a pacifier, let her suck on her thumb. Sit in the room with your baby without her seeing you and sing a song or talk to her so that she will know that you are there. When you notice that she has calmed or is falling asleep quietly leave, if she starts crying when you leave come back and let her see you. Eventually she will sleep on her own, but don’t let her cry, it will do the opposite of what you want. The baby might become scared being alone in a room and will want to be with you until she is a few years old. If your baby likes to sleep in a car seat when riding try placing her in car seat for a nap at home so that she may gradually learn to fall asleep on her own. Pick her up if she continues to cry and when she is sleepy, but not et asleep place her down and stand next to her. She will learn to be alone, but do it gradually and have patience.
2007-01-03 06:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Natalia D 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same boat. My baby is 9 weeks 10 tomorrow and if hes not being held than he crys. I'm telling you that she will not stop until shes held. What you should do is let her cry for about 10-15 minutes than go in an pick her up don't say anything to her just hold her and rock her for a few minutes then put her down again. Repeat this a few times till she falls asleep. its worked for us so there is some hope. I hate letting him cry it out, but sometimes it has to be done. I cant hold him 24/7! Good luck to you!
2007-01-03 06:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
New born babies wants to feel the warmth and love being held.
I experience the same all the time as my baby is also around 3 months old now and he also loves to be held. We try to put him down to his bed but at times he just refuse to do so and starts crying so watch him for sometime let's say 3-4 mins if he still keeps on crying we pick him up and when he is really sleepy we put him back to bed. I think there is no hard and fast rule but in general you should try that your baby does not cry for too long ....4-5 mins crying is OK will not harm the baby. Good Luck.
2007-01-03 06:22:42 · answer #3 · answered by nav_nav2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my baby woke me up in the middle of the night he would maybe cry 5 minutes (probably not even a whole 5). Only that long cause I would have to run to the bathroom real quick and get a quick drink so I would be awake enough to grab him. He's 8 months now and if he cries in the middle of the night I still go to him. Yes the crying will turn into screaming when it's not getting what it wants/needs. Babies go through growth spurts and teething and they will wake up for comfort or food in the middle of the night. It would be easier on them to get the baby and put the baby in bed with them when it wakes. They could get a bit more sleep that way and the baby will be happy.
2016-05-22 23:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would check on her after 5 minutes or so of crying. Maybe try to comfort her without picking her up. I have a 4 month old and I want him to go to sleep without being held. So I will let him cry/fuss for a little bit, but not more than 10 minutes.
2007-01-03 06:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by rudasill4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's hard. we've been dealing with the same thing with our son for the past two nights except it ended up that he just wanted an extra bottle before bed. he changed the routine on us without warning!!!! yeah, those babies do that sometimes!. are you sure she just isn't changing the routine??
also, maybe she just isn't tired. it's hard to get a baby on a routine and frankly, i don't agree with routines for babies until they are down to 1-2 naps a day. usually around age 1-2years.
then they should be on a regular routine.
if you are sure you want to let her cry it out, then i would let her go for about 10-15 minutes. let her get used to it in small doses. that way she will get more accustomed to not being held. also, when she is awake, give her more time on the floor playing with toys or in a swing, so she doesn't rely so much on being held. i had to do this with my son b/c i knew he was going to daycare and they can't sit and hold him all day like i could!
take care:)
2007-01-03 06:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3-months is pretty young. Are you sure there is nothing wrong, she doesn't have colic or ?? At 1-yr, I finally decided my daughter had to go to sleep on her own without me in the bed or even the room. She cried for over an hour per night for the first week and then everything was fine. Give her 30-minutes and see what happens, 3-months is a little young to let her go for an extended period.
2007-01-03 06:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by nativeAZ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, the baby will get so used to always being held that it will make it hard for her to get to sleep right away. It seems horrible to let her cry, but she does have to get into some type of schedule and not be held constantly. I'm sure just about every parent has this same question!
2007-01-03 06:20:06 · answer #8 · answered by wldntulike_2know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't let it go longer than 10 minutes at 3 months. The baby is still too young.
2007-01-03 06:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by Melissa 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Until they are 9 months.
2007-01-03 06:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Pretending To Work 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋